It must be very loud for the person to feel the need to complain?

She should close her windows and doors when the baby is crying. I hope this can be sorted out soon.

I’d be upset if I got that note too, but I would also be trying to settle my child as quickly as possible knowing very well that others would be able to hear.
If it’s so bad, put the baby in the pram and go for a walk.
The neighbour was polite in their note and didn’t bad mouth the mother, I assume they just want to make it aware to the new mum that the baby is crying a lot in hopes that the mother reaches out to someone for help on how to settle the child. Babies do cry a lot but they shouldn’t be crying all day and night.

They are only asking them to close the doors and windows. That’s not really a big deal is it?

Oh no, that woukd absolutely have made me feel terrible

Far out! I would’ve asked if she needed any help first! Hope she is ok, that’s a really hard note to swallow as a new mum, as any mum really.

I feel for this mum – good neighbours offer support and understanding.

I don’t know that a crying baby’s sound can travel that far?! Seems that neighbour is a Karen and bringing everyone else into it who probably don’t even know that that letter has been written…

It is a fairly polite letter, and if she has the doors open, etc I can understand a little. However, raising a baby is hard work, and they can afford to be a bit more understanding too, unless, since they’re such good parents, they are volunteering to babysit.

I think the mum is over reacting. They’ve acknowledged the challenges, they’re not having a go at her, and they’re asking her for a small temporary accommodation when they’ve already tried some things theirselves.

As a Mum of a baby who screamed pretty much 24/7 for the first 12 months of his life, I can only imagine how this mum must have felt receiving this letter. What about a little empathy for this poor Mum, perhaps check in, in person to see how she is coping. This letter sucks and is cowardly.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 08 May 2024 , 4:08 am

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  I agree; empathy and understanding goes a long way and builds relationships.

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    • • Ellen replied
      • 08 May 2024 , 8:05 am

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    Yes I totally agree, when we stop having empathy for eachother we grow cold and become selfish

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    • • mom93821 replied
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    I agree and that is not the community or world we all want for ourselves and children.

Honestly i can see both sides. All they’ve really asked is if she could close the back door/windows if the baby is unsettled which is fair unless they have ducted air-conditioning and it’s super hot.

Leave a note on your door saying you sister is coming to stay a few months and she has 3 children under 4 years of age . Also say in the note sorry for the new worse noise coming soon

The poor mother, being a mum of a newborn is stressful enough, without this added stress!!

Babies cry to express their needs, there is simply no other way.
I wonder what these “kind” neighbours expect this mum to do ?
They write we appreciate ypour understanding and cooperation..
Naturally a mum responds in the best way she can on her babies cries.
What more can she do ??
I think it’s an impossible request and very unpleasant she received it per written note

This is ridiculous. Newborns are crying.

Really, it was politely worded asking them to shut the doors & windows. Very reasonable. I can see it would be upsetting and may have been better coming in person but it is done now. They may have been worried about knocking and waking the baby or calling at a bad time. Consider them and let it go. Houses are sometimes too close together nowadays.

Being a good neighbour means no letters in mail boxes; receiving a letter from neighbours never ends well.

This situation sucks for everyone involved. The new Mum certainly doesn’t want baby crying and being unsettled, and the neighbour can have the expectation to have peace in their home. I think the suggestion of having a conversation in person is a tricky one, as the note made her burst out in tears. Hopefully both parties can close their windows for the time being, and the new Mum doesn’t stress herself out over this too much.

It’s never going to be intentional but i feel for both parties involved. It’s not often easy saying it face to face and the letter read in a friendly and nice manner that hopefully allowed a window of discussion. It’s a tough one but great neighbours would be able to discuss this openly.