I dont know why but my kids just didnt throw tantrums. Very weird.
My middle daughter had a handful but only when she was very sick and ended up in hospital.

I think it’s fine.
Honestly, they need to get their frustration out. Especially if they can’t communicate whatever it is they’re feeling, properly to you then of course they’re going to have a meltdown.
Just like an adult – they get frustrated and mad except adults don’t cry… sometimes!

It’s something we all have to deal with in one way or another. Thanks for the post.

Everyone has meltdowns, just look at some adults. Some of them haven’t learnt to control their own behaviour. Sometimes it is their way of letting their parents know they aren’t coping with something at the time and if they are quite young that is their only way of expressing what they are feeling at the time. Showing them understanding and patience helps and trying to distract them if possible. we were all children once.

Not something I think I ever embraced. I did manage to ignore which seemed to work. Thankfully they didn’t happen much in public

I think I have been lucky avoiding this. My daughter knows that if she wants something she can have 1 item per shop under $5 so she spends her time carefully picking. My son just wants to run up and down the isles and he is happy

It definitely helps when you’re just empathic towards their frustration

When my youngest was small he would throw a tantrum when in the shop because he couldn’t have what he wanted. I would just say to him “Okay I’m going now so bye”. Then I’d go to the checkout, pack my shopping and put it in the car. Then I’d wait in the seat just outside the shop and wait for him to come out. It was safe to do because I live in a very small country town and knew everyone. Definitely wouldn’t have tried this if we lived in a city or large town.

With our youngest we’ve had a few small ones, now he just gets grumpy and walks around with a grumpy face lol

I appreciate all of that but… when you’ve had a hard day and in the middle of another meltdown… it’s easier said than done. I carried my son out of a Shopping Centre kicking and punching me, that was our worst. But, I now understand it was a meltdown and not a tantrum (very different), as my son has ASD and he was undiagnosed at the time. It explained why those tantrums went for so long and were so intense.

Of course and you just need to say behind the behaviour what they’re communicating

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  • • Ellen replied
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  see not say lol

It’s a normal emotion that we as adults have sometimes too

My son liked to put his arms up straight so that he would slip straight out of you trying to pick him up then lay on the floor if he didn’t agree with you

My 1st never really has tantrums. He is quite reasonable when he gets angry or frustrated.

Mine haven’t but I have seen others do it. It always makes me smile when I see it though as i remember mine at home when they were little.

Not me son but my 22months is try to do them
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Tantrums only really bothered me if it was a situation that would be unpleasant for others, and I couldn’t easily remove my son.

I can’t recall any special situation with my daughter, but I witnessed some, and I really don’t know how I would have reacted if I were in those parent’s shoes.

Those tantrums sure are hard to handle and we don’t always deal with them appropriately. My kids had tantrums, not epic ones. Although, my daughter had a couple in her teenage years that could be classed as epic

Tantrums are sometimes a result of frustration of either you not understanding what they are trying to communicate to you, them not understanding you, or being upset about something that has happened. It is their way of releasing their anger and fustration. We do it in other ways.