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Article Single Mum Admits, When Someone Says “I Don’t Know How You Do It”, She Often Thinks “Neither Do I”

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Single mum of two, Lauren Patterson, admits the daily struggle often gets too much.

“When someone says to me, “I don’t know how you do it”, sometimes, neither do I”, admits Lauren in a recent Instagram post.

“Whenever someone asks me what it’s like to be a solo parent, I explain that it never gets easier, you just get stronger.

“Just note, I HAVE F#$KING AMAZING KIDS!

“This is not a reflection of them, because they are my absolute world and I love them more and more every day.


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I’d like to… I’d like to say something, I’ve prepared. Hello. How about that ride in? I guess that’s why they call it sin city. Haha. You guys might not know this, but i consider myself a bit of a loner. I tend to think of myself as a one man wolf pack. But when I bought Madi home from the hospital i knew she was one of my own and my wolf pack, it grew, it grew by one. So there we were, there were two of us in the wolf pack. I was alone in the wolf pack, and then Madi joined in later. Then 3 years down the track Max popped his cute little cheeky self into the world and I thought “wait a second, could it be?” And now I know for sure, I just added one more to my wolf pack. Three of us wolves, running around the desert together, In Brisbane, looking for fish tacos, babycinos and coffee. So TGIF, I make a toast.

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“You get used to doing all the chores yourself, making lunches, getting them bathed and dressed, trying to shower yourself and make yourself somewhat presentable, keeping them entertained until school drop off, keep on top of my emails and study and making sure I remember to pay the bills on time, but then there some days I just wanna sit down and cry because I wish some magical fairy would swoop into my house and take some of the load for me.

“Today, I’m looking for that magical fairy. It’s days like these that I have to stop, take a breath and get on with it, because I don’t like complaining and that’s all I can do. I still have my breakdowns, I promise you that. ”

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When someone says to me, “I don’t know how you do it”, sometimes, neither do I. Whenever someone asks me what it’s like to be a solo parent, I explain that it never gets easier, you just get stronger. Just note, I HAVE FUCKING AMAZING KIDS! This is not a reflection of them, because they are my absolute world and I love them more and more every day. You get used to doing all the chores yourself, making lunches, getting them bathed and dressed, trying to shower yourself and make yourself somewhat presentable, keeping them entertained until school drop off, keep on top of my emails and study and making sure I remember to pay the bills on time but then there some days I just wanna sit down and cry because I wish some magical fairy would swoop into my house and take some of the load for me. Today, I’m looking for that magical fairy. It’s days like these that I have to stop, take a breath and get on with it, because I don’t like complaining and that’s all I can do. I still have my breakdowns, I promise you that.

 

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  • Sometimes having a partner doesn’t make parenting easier, but I do admire single parents for the sole responsibility they carry on their shoulders.

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  • I wish she gets all the help and support as she has big responsibilities

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  • Bless all the single mummies struggling out there !

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  • Yes. These cliches are rarely helpful.

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  • Yep. I’ve wondered it too. Even bearing the brunt of housework and kids I do have family and my partner to lean on when I really need to. I have moments where I’ve felt like I was barely head above water but single mums do it all the time! A great reminder that we are all human and we all need support at times.

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  • My husband works away and I often think how amazing single parents are that do that full time. Hats off to them I don’t know how they do it.

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  • Sometimes it’s easier in some ways on your own – parenting consistency, less mess for one less person but then not having any down time and no help is hard

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  • It gets easier. You just gotta do the best you can do.

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  • I admire single mums most turn out to be so much happier than two parents that live together and have different views on how to raise their children

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  • Enjoy every moment as they grow up so fast.

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  • Single mums are absolutely amazing and are doing a great job! I definitely don’t know how they manage it!

    • I’m with you on this one. They certainly get kudos from me.

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  • A lot of kudos for single mums. Being a parent is tough and when you’re doing it on your own, it only gets tougher

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