Acceptance of things i cannot change

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Mum has lived with my adult son and I for three years (since Dad passed). She decided in November to move into our holiday home – a very basic early 70’s property two states away… Mum is almost 80, a little wobbly, but perfectly capable of making decisions. Her theory, she went from her childhood home, to her marriage home, then living with us. She wanted to be free.
It was so hard for me to let her go – what if something happens? I also felt terribly guilty, that we had done something wrong to make it too challenging to live with us. It was a real grieving process. It was an event I could not control – just support.
She is totally happy, living simply with ocean views and no expectations. She has earned that right. Mum accepts it may not be for a long time, but she is going to relish her freedom whilst she can.
For me, it was a real learning. Hard to let go, but she is so very happy, and at the end of the day that is what matters.
Love you Mum – miss you lots, but admire your courage and independence xxx

Posted by coastalkaryn, 15th December 2015

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- - mom94125 said
  - 28 Dec 2015
    5:15 pm
lovely! what a brave and independant lady! she doesn’t want to be a burden to you though.

- - mom90758 said
  - 16 Dec 2015
    4:33 pm
I’m sure your mum spent a lovely time with you. But I understand that she’d like to be independent again. It’s a pity she’s so far away, but seeing her so happy and relaxed is a clear sign that is was the right thing to do.
- coastalkaryn replied
  
  17 Dec 2015 , 8:12 pm
  thanks for your kind words
- - mom165081 said
  - 16 Dec 2015
    1:04 am
You are lucky to be able to provide this for her. So hard when people pass, and when people live at a distance. So many positive ways to keep in touch, love your attitude about this. Stay strong and take care.

- - mom93821 said
  - 15 Dec 2015
    8:36 pm
Love your story and your loving attitude. Good on your mum for doing what makes her happy.