my grandson has been coming home saying he is being bullied. A boy in his class throws computers across the classroom, shapes paddle pop sticks into a sharp point and jabs the kids etc. the student is disruptive to all learning and they are not feeling safe. The school wont remove the child. The school says we are dealing with him. How would you go about it.

Posted by Cynthea Jenke, 17th March 2015

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  • I had one child just like that on the same bus as my kids. How frustrating us it that nothing seems to be done? All you see is that kid keeping on going hurting others. I think the child should be removed, but they won’t do that will they?


  • I went to school with a child like that. I remember having to evacuate the class room once because he was having a meltdown and throwing chairs at people. Another time he spent hours up a tree while one of the teachers just stood with him trying to safely coax him down.
    What we didn’t understand as kids was how terrible his home life was. I still remember that his lunches were always tomato sauce sandwiches, and that’s if he got anything, The teachers didn’t want to disrupt his already unstable life further by expelling him, and suspending him would have done no good. Classes weren’t always great for us, but it was even worse for him.
    While I’m not saying this is the case for your grandchild it is quite a common senario – the so called bully is still a child and often really a victim them self. It may be why the school seems to be doing nothing, it may be that they are doing a lot, but just can’t say anything.


  • I’d take it higher, go to the education department if the school isn’t responding in a way you think is appropriate


  • I’d also start documenting the incidents.


  • I would think that the school should be taking it seriously as throwing computer across the room could certainly hurt children in their care. Feeling safe is important for all the other children as well. Perhaps ask the school to tell you in detail what they are doing in this situation and go from there?

    • They use the confidentiality phrase where they cant speak about it because it involves another child


  • wow i would make them listen or at the least, swap classes.


  • You have every right to take it higher and get some answers. Schools need to manage the behaviour of all students and have and follow policy and procedures and have strategies in place. Schools can receive supports/funding for children that require extra supports. Also; look at the possibility of changing schools if you are unhappy with further responses/actions.

    • Their PoliCies and procedures include locking the classroom putting other children in danger. I disagree with this. The children have to be four years behind to get extra help. Someone is coming in from the ed behavoural units.


  • I would keep in constant contact with the school and demand to know what they are doing and ask for processes to be put in place that make my son feel safe


  • Keep on at the school but if it is not changing change schools


  • Approach the school in writing. If you’re not satisfied, escalate it to the education department.


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