I think it is best to be yourself and still show your own values by supporting them regardless of whether they married or not . They still have to make the right choices by themselves and if its the wrong choice they cant blame you for it . As long as they don’t control my life emotionally or financially , I will leave the decisions to my adult children . Of course whether they listen to advice is another thing altogether .

We always want the best for our children. Good on you for starting out positive. It can be hard to maintain that bit for the sake of your relationship with your child and grandchildren / possible future grandchildren I would try maintain a civil relationship regardless of how you really feel

so anyone have an #Outlaw joke?
just chill and see where you all go from here. not easy navigating family relationships especially with the extended side of the family.

being in an in law

Sounds a bit frustrating. Its never easy! Good luck with it all!

I think you did the right thing by trying to start positively.

We all go through hating our inlaws, I started off loving mine, then a tragic event happened that changed our lives our baby was born ill and passed away, anyone would think it was her it haped to not us. I hated her so much for a few years. But we are now passed that and we have three lovely kids. They are great grandparents, they treat me with restpect and kindly, they have acepted what happened and are supportive of us. It took time but we got through it. Theey now have whats best for the kids at heart and support us in most ways possible. I hope they change so they treat your family with respet as my inlaws did. But it took time.

I’ve always found it incredibly hard to accept my kids partner choices. If they don’t do right by my kids, they’re gone. I won’t tolerate it. My son already lives interstate with his partner, my daughter is planning her move with her partner….and I still struggle with the in law job. Maybe one day

Sounds complicated – families can be at times.

How frustrating. I hope things get sorted out