He always put his children first - Real Mum story on MoM

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I have a partner and we have a baby together, and we both have children from previous marriages, while mine live with us his don’t and he has them every fornight, hard as it is I excepted that and had them for him, but the problems started with them and my child fighting teasing as you can imagine 2 of them and only my 1 son, so anyway its was getting worse and worse in the end I had them for 11 days over xmas and new yr not that I wanted to but agreed for him, after 11 days he walked out on me our child and my son because of all the fighting with the kids, came back again kids fought he leaves me so he started only havinf them with me nd our son and my son only the sat night and the Friday he would stay at work not much help our situatation until we told the kids listen if you fight with each other you sort it our and don’t come running to us so that worked, but my problem is any time I have asked not to have them he would just say no way im having them if you don’t want them ill take them elsewhere very frustrating the nail in the coffin was when he put his kids before me and my kids oin mothers day and had them not with us but at his work because I really felt it was unfair and they should be with there mother but I believe she knows she is causing problems for us and sending the kids more and more and ask all the time if he can have them longer and more wkeds, plus we live about 2hrs apart so when he takes them home on sunday its another whole day away from us at home, im so angry at him and guess what he just left me again because he keeps saying he will see his kids whenever he wants and for as long as he wants and just wont consider me or his baby child im so angry upset frustated we haven’t see him in 6 wks and have fought nearly everyday about the situation but he says his kids come first but we have a child together you might think that’s important to but it just seems that that doesn’t matter, im so confused how could he do this is he just trying to prove a point? im nearly ready to walk away I know it works out that he has his children on fathers day because he changed last wkd and had them 2 wks in a row so it would work out for him but im so mad I don’t want to see them or let him have a nice fathers day with our child and them because I always feel like me and our son are second to them so im just not going o let him see him and maybe he will see what he did to me on mothers day. mmm even writing this I feel like im being revengeful but im so hurt by what he has done and said maybe it really is over and im better to get out. Please help me

Posted by 191joannes, 30th August 2014

6 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 25 Apr 2015
    7:48 pm
top storie great

- - mom113055 said
  - 13 Apr 2015
    1:06 pm
the story is exellent

- - mom56842 said
  - 16 Sep 2014
    3:29 am
I understand where you are coming from, however at least he is interested in seeing his children from his previous relationship, they should be just as important in his life as you and your baby are. So, you both have children from previous relationships, your lucky your children live with you, his don’t, he wants to see them as much as he can and you’re not comfortable with the time it’s taking him to drive to pick them up and drop them off and feel like you and your son are coming second to his other children and that the ex partner is trying to split you up by asking your partner to have their children for access more often and he walks out on you so he can see his children ? Hope I have this right..do you think you and your partner can sort this out by having a good talk and clearing the air, is there a way you can move closer to his children so that the driving time isn’t an issue or is the amount of time he wants to spend with his children one of the issues for you?

- - Kelly said
  - 30 Aug 2014
    11:34 pm
I think you really need to sit down with him and try and talk this through and see where you both stand after that chat.
Hope everything works out for you.

- - damish70 said
  - 30 Aug 2014
    9:12 pm
No don’t stoop down to that level. Let him have his Father’s Day but I really do think you need to take a good look at this relationship. Is he trying to get back with his ex? I’m a little confused- did he leave you for 6wks? If so where did he go? I can feel the tension in your post & the need to off load..He’s certainly not showing you or your child any respect .Have you had an opportunity to have a proper talk with him? Maybe it’s time to move on. Goodluck hun.
- 191joannes replied
  
  01 Sep 2014 , 4:54 pm
  He has been staying at work and theres no way he would go back to his ex even if she wanted him, she has a new partner anyway and I know I have nothing to worry about there.