How do other mums do it?!? - Real Mum story on MoM

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hi everyone I wonder how many other working mums struggle…..is it just me?? I work full time and have 2 gorgeous children and that in itself is exhausting not to mention I have health issues. I have arthritis in my lower back and fibromyalgia. In saying this its not a whinge I just want to hear how other mommies do it! THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!!!! I try the food planning and mal prep and I suck at it, and cooking isn’t my forte in saying that I love the recipes on here and have fond a lot of useful ones. is it just me that feels like im a failure that im not the perfect mum? that I cant always hold my s*** together, im not dressed immaculate or in my gym gear? I have 2 days off a week and I try and clean and fit everything into that and have no life. sorry about my whinge and moan I didn’t mean it to be I just want some there mommies out there to tell me if i’m not alone or am I just crazy going through this hectic life?

Posted by mom64463, 18th March 2017

10 Comments

- - mom93821 said
  - 23 Mar 2017
    5:53 am
Also, if any mum ever feels overwhelmed please talk to someone about how you feel. Your GP can be such a wonderful resource for connecting you with services and supports and that may be able to help and support you.
- mom64463 replied
  
  23 Mar 2017 , 11:10 pm
  unfortunatey there are no support groups im after in my country town, thanks for your advice I have been looking!
- - jenniw said
  - 21 Mar 2017
    11:00 am
I am a full time working mum of two and I find it a struggle as well some of the time. I also constantly question whether working was the right thing to do (I have always worked part time and full time in various roles since having my children). Cooking is not my thing either, although lucky for me my husband is a good cook and he is a wonderful support. He also works full time and somehow we have managed children, work, sports, activities etc and we have a good relationship. You are certainly not alone, but remember to look after yourself and seek support if you need it.
- mom64463 replied
  
  23 Mar 2017 , 11:12 pm
  thank you
- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Mar 2017
    7:30 am
There is no such thing as a ‘perfect mum’ and there is no way to achieve being a so called perfect mum. Balancing work, home, children, relationships and your own health and well being is a juggling act. The way I get through it all is to be organised and scheduled and this can be different for everyone. I plan my days (does not mean they always go according to plan!) to assist me with my days and my work and it does help to keep me on track and kicking goals. Take time out for yourself too – here and there and wherever and whenever you can. It is important to take care of your own health and well being and taking the time to share how you are feeling on MoMs is a part of this too. Other mums do understand and some have similar experiences. Mums groups that suit you can help too and they will be having similar experiences. There is usually a group or group of friends that will have similar experiences. Just choose people that are not judgmental. Good luck and know that you are never ever alone with your struggle – other mums are also in the struggle.
- mom64463 replied
  
  23 Mar 2017 , 11:21 pm
  thank you
- - mom176887 said
  - 20 Mar 2017
    3:43 pm
You’re doing better than me. And of course it is a TOTAL struggle to work and have children (for men and women). Impossible really. With regards to health issues it really is worth looking into diet. I have found that small changes over the years towards more natural foods, fruits, vegetables, with less meats, sugars, salts, fats has made a big difference. Still not perfect but every little helps. I think having a motivation (like seeing how good food can turn things around with how you feel) can help you do what you need – try lots of simple meals: salads, frozen veg, dried beans, etc. and maybe help two problems (health and cooking) at once. I hope you realize what an awesome job you are doing anyway, and hope you can look into diet changes to see if you can make cooking easier and improve health?
- mom64463 replied
  
  24 Mar 2017 , 11:23 pm
  I will definitely give it a try thank you x
- - cherz said
  - 19 Mar 2017
    9:29 pm
HI, Beautiful mom,
To start if you have two children that’s a full time job in it’s self …so if you have 2 children and work full time as well (other employment) that’s you holding down two(2) jobs…so you are entitled to feel exhausted and struggle with day to day chores at times. Try cooking large batches of meals eg stock pot soup or casseroles and freezing them for that night when you are just to exhausted to cook.
ALSO with regards to your fibromyalgia try and limit or cut out sugar. I too have been diagnosed with fibro and find if I have too much sugar in a day I suffer badly that night, I develop a head ache, sore left neck and shoulder, pain at the base of my neck that makes sleeping extremely painful and over all pains anywhere. One of the key triggers for me is sugar and it flares my fibro up fiercely. So try cutting back or eliminating your sugar and see if it makes a difference.
Hang in there mom and enjoy life and your children while they are young as they will grow and be out of your hair way to soon. sending you love and strength …all the best wishes to you and your family.
- mom64463 replied
  
  20 Mar 2017 , 11:20 pm
  Thank you so much fellow mummy appreciate your comment so much x