Hysterectomy - Real Mum story on MoM

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I recently gave birth to our second child, a gorgeous little girl (we also have a 20 month old son).
My first child was a C-section as he was in breach. There was no reason I couldn’t have a VBAC this time if everything progressed naturally. I went into labour 12 days before my due date. The labour didn’t progress naturally and breaking my waters didn’t help – so I was taken off for an ‘emergency’ C-section (although it wasn’t really an emergency). This all went fine and our gorgeous little girl was born without issues.
However, whilst in recovery my uterus wouldn’t contract and I continued to bleed. Despite all the Obs best efforts to stop the bleeding, I had to go back into surgery in an attempt to put in a balloon- and failing that, they would need to remove my uterus. Unfortunately the balloon didn’t work and a hysterectomy was required to save my life.
We were only planning on having two children, but now it’s so final it’s a bit sad. I am extremely grateful for the two wonderful children I have, and for being alive. But I would like to hear from others who went through something similar and any tips to help recover emotionally.
It was also a very difficult time for my husband who was wondering why it was taking so long for me to join him and our baby after the C-section (he eventually asked a nurse and was provided with regular updates after that point) – and he had to call family and say we’d had the baby but now my life was in danger, which was a very difficult thing to do.

Posted anonymously, 16th September 2014

8 Comments

- - BellaB said
  - 31 May 2016
    12:53 pm
I had a very similar experience – you feel like your choices have been taken out of your hands. I’m not sure I’ve recovered emotionally.

- - mom113055 said
  - 11 Sep 2015
    5:40 pm
hytercomny

- - mom81879 said
  - 10 Sep 2015
    5:37 pm
It’s a struggle when our choices are all of a sudden taken from us. On a high not, you do have 2 healthy children, so you’re lucky, when the grieving stops, you will se it for what it is

- - mom113055 said
  - 30 Apr 2015
    4:00 pm
nice story for read

- - mom113055 said
  - 11 Apr 2015
    1:15 pm
nice story i enjoyed it

- - mom113055 said
  - 09 Apr 2015
    4:02 pm
great story to read

- - tarpeel said
  - 27 Dec 2014
    5:09 pm
Hi, I’m sorry for your experience. Sorry I also have no advice. I’m planning a VBAC myself in march and am trying to find out as much as possible to prepare. I was told of the potential risks but also told they were low percentages. Did they explain why they broke your waters? I’m assuming in an effort to move the labour along. Was the bleeding a result of your uterus not contracting? I know we all think that we will be one of the many and not the few where something goes wrong, making it hard to cope when it does. I hope you are recovering both physically and emotionally and enjoying your family.

- - kylie_baust said
  - 16 Sep 2014
    4:45 pm
I wish i had so advice to offer you – but not being in that position, i have nothing.
But i do want to send you love and well wishes, for a speedy recovery both mentally and physically – i can only imagine how draining and worrisome this time is for your family.
Take the time to grieve – yes you may never have wanted more children if everything was ok anyway, but that option has been taken for you – so allow yourself to feel that xxx