I'm all alone! Please tell me your perspective

12 Comments

I’m a mum of 2 & I work 5-6 days a week 3pm until 12pm my children go to family daycare whilst I work! I have a partner but basically I do everything! I’m so tired and I’ve been run down in managing to make this work! My partner doesn’t seem to help much unless he’s asked or begged, I pay for everything, and I’m the only one that seems to care about doing family stuff. My house isn’t always clean sometimes it’s quite messy but what am I suppose to do raising 2 kids, keeping a household and working! I just feel he isn’t there for us, and over time I’ve fallen out of love with him because he calls me lazy and says I do nothing, please tell me if I’m wrong for feeling lost

Posted by taz_za87, 31st July 2013

12 Comments

- - serotonin said
  - 20 Feb 2016
    9:55 pm
I’m so sorry you get called lazy and get taken for granted. I know how awful it is to be put down while you’re doing everything you can. Maybe try therapy, have a 3rd person there to put things into perspective. Maybe some time apart to show your partner what he’ll lose if he keeps it up? Best of luck to you. You deserve to be happy and appreciated and loved.

- - mom141765 said
  - 08 Jul 2015
    1:45 pm
It sounds like you need to do some soul searching and decide what is best for you and your children. Don’t feel bad for wanting to be happy, if you’re not happy your children can see that. I hope you have someone you can talk to and if you don’t maybe you should find someone, even a free counseling service like lifeline.

- - mom113055 said
  - 25 Mar 2015
    6:32 pm
great
- mom141765 replied
  
  08 Jul 2015 , 1:46 pm
  Did you even read this?
  - mom112217 replied
    
    30 Jun 2016 , 7:51 pm
    
    Reading your story,you work long and late hours so how are you lazy? You need a partner who will love and support you.
- - mom57522 said
  - 06 Jan 2015
    1:50 pm
Doesn’t sound like his lifting his weight at all.

- - pakeko said
  - 31 Oct 2014
    9:24 pm
A panter is that someone that shares the work load. It’s time you sat down and told him how you feel

- - meimei said
  - 31 May 2014
    8:02 pm
I think your partner too selfish. He should help you for housework as he can. Hope everyhing will be okay as a happy family

- - jodie80 said
  - 26 Mar 2014
    4:25 pm
this man is taking advantage of you .. i think u should say something

- - nickia said
  - 02 Aug 2013
    8:26 am
I understand why you have lost that love for him. He’s treating you like a slave relationships are about both people working together to make a life & to work to make sure your partner is happy & clearly he’s not doing that. You & your kids deserve better, he needs to understand how you feel & step up

- - katelt said
  - 01 Aug 2013
    1:54 pm
You need to go on strike, Maybe then he will realise just how much you do!

- - jayella said
  - 01 Aug 2013
    1:34 pm
You aren’t wrong to feel that way. He is being selfish and rude. I reminded my husband early on that we were now a family and for both of us our responsibilities had changed and we needed to understand and appreciate the difficulties each was experiencing. Thankfully he listened. Perhaps your partner could listen and adjust and then you might fall for him all over again. (Don’t forget your tiredness and stress makes you feel down about everything.) But if he doesn’t listen or want to help, then cut him loose. If he can’t be a part of the solution then you don’t need him adding to your problems. Either way I wish you all the best and I’m sending you all the positive wishes I can.