Judgement of other mothers. - Real Mum story on MoM

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My husband is a stay at home father to my beautiful two year old girl. We made the decision to do this and not put our daughter in daycare. But ever since making this decision, all we have ever heard is ‘what about socialising, poor girl doesn’t get to play, daycare is the best thing for their development’. So, in a moment of complete weakness and pressure, I put her into daycare. After a short while, we took her out. Don’t get me wrong, she got used to it, cried at first, but was loving it by the time we would pick her up. I just didn’t feel right.
After much discussing with my husband, we decided that we let the pressure get to us. Our daughter is socialised plenty, she spends days with family, sleepovers at her aunties, visits to our friends that all have children. Plus going to the parks, playgrounds, doing craft days at home and playing with her dogs outside in her yard. She is a happy, friendly, clever young girl.
My whole point to this is, I don’t judge anyone else. I am perfectly fine with my friends that have their children in daycare, for whatever reason. I don’t care about the way people feed their child, discipline their child, entertain their child. Parenting is hard! Yet I felt so pressured by other mothers, that they made me question my own judgement. Come on mothers, let’s look out for eachother, not hinder eachother.

Posted by teacup83, 3rd April 2016

7 Comments

- - mom56312 said
  - 12 Apr 2016
    4:32 pm
It up the parents if they decide to put their kids in care not the community, a lot of familys do it due to the fact they want to or have too, and they also want to earn more money to pay the bills or as a lot of my friends do to go on holidays and buy unnecessary luxury items but thats their choice. Nobody would dare judge them for that.. So its not their place to judge you for keeping your bubs at home..

- - mum4107 said
  - 11 Apr 2016
    8:07 am
I’m so sorry you were judged. My daughter didn’t go to daycare until she was 2.5 and only then because there is a creche where I work. It’s not for everyone.

- - cherz said
  - 10 Apr 2016
    8:40 pm
Stand your ground and trust your instinct.
Doing what is best for you and your family is what matters.
Wishing you all health and much happiness.:-)

- - Naomi said
  - 06 Apr 2016
    9:47 pm
Beautiful words. I know what you mean about feeling pressured, often it’s subtle too. Good on you for listening to your guy! And that’s awesome your husband stays home

- - BellaB said
  - 06 Apr 2016
    4:50 pm
I think you know your child best. Daycare offers lots of good things, but that doesn’t mean every child HAS to go.

- - mom165081 said
  - 04 Apr 2016
    8:59 pm
So glad you made this choice – you know what is available to your child at home and throughout the day better than anyone. So much judging/comparison is done at this age. The benefits of a close relationship with your children cannot be underestimated.

- - mom90758 said
  - 03 Apr 2016
    10:40 am
I think you made a wonderful choice. And never question your choices indeed. Is your daughter happy? Well, that’s all you need to know.
I’ve kept my daughter home with me for her first 3 years and I don’t regret any moment.