Making peace with myself - Real Mum story on MoM

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Some of you may have seen my others stories where I’ve mentioned being ill for nearly a year with various illnesses and apparently I’m on my way to type 2 diabetes (still shocked by this), others might have seen where I wrote about a difficult childhood and trying to stay happy. I started counseling about 3 weeks ago. It hasn’t been too bad although I still get a wide range of emotions. I have started bumping into my family lately in our small town which is hard to deal with when you don’t speak to them. My mum is by no means a great mum and has hurt me a lot but lately I’ve been able to remember the times she has given me good advice. It made me miss her and wish we got on better. It’s been nearly a year since I spoke to her. Yesterday I went and bought some special hair care products. As I was washing my hair I could suddenly smell my mothers beautiful scent, It made me want to cry right there in the shower. I got out and dressed. I then sent her a text message to say I missed her. We texted for the next 20 minutes and then she asked to come over and talk. We spent 4 hours talking and it was great. I don’t know if things will be better between us but I want to give our relationship a chance.

Posted by vidald79, 15th February 2014

19 Comments

- - Toni Rowland said
  - 06 Oct 2015
    8:47 pm
Wishing you best of luck

- - ginoula5 said
  - 06 Aug 2014
    7:03 pm
I thinking giving someone another chance is the way to go, don’t let any IF’s play on your mind one day in the future, keep trying, hope everything goes well and keeps getting better. x

- - Yasmin Amber said
  - 31 Jul 2014
    11:16 pm
letting go of the bad stuff is essential too our health i believe, good work and i hope you can stay friends.

- - no1ladydj said
  - 13 Jul 2014
    10:29 pm
One day at a time. That’s all you can do. Keep the lines of communication open, and if at all possible, never let the last thing you say to someone (either in person or on the phone) be hurtful words. I’m so please for you that you & your Mum are hopefully mending a few bridges. Forgiveness is incredibly powerful, and although it won’t happen overnight, if you can work towards forgiving, it will free you more than you can possibly imagine. I wish you well.

- - tamandimmy said
  - 19 May 2014
    1:47 pm
Take each hay as it comes just enjoy the chats and don’t put pressure to have a wonderful relationship straight off.. All the best

- - catgrrl3 said
  - 16 May 2014
    5:53 pm
how is councelling going, I hope that it is helping you

- - coppin85 said
  - 12 May 2014
    7:28 pm
i hope all is going well

- - scottie said
  - 12 May 2014
    11:03 am
hope things are still looking up for you

- - coppin85 said
  - 30 Apr 2014
    4:07 pm
I don’t know what happened in your childhood but it sounds like it’s making you more miserable not talking to your mum and it sounds like you could use some help and happiness in your life…

- - kathryn said
  - 30 Apr 2014
    10:12 am
it is always hard when you don’t talk to your family – I haven’t been in touch with my brother for over six years (his choice).

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 19 Apr 2014
    8:56 pm
It’s always worth a chance. If you don’t give it a go you will never know what might have been. I have been in similar circumstance with a family member and it turned out to be a positive. You just have to be in the right frame of mind to be receptive to what might happen. I wish you all the best and hugs.
- mom57522 replied
  
  10 Jan 2015 , 8:21 pm
  It’s better to have trice than to wonder what if.
- - janecody said
  - 16 Apr 2014
    12:56 am
Ì hope things work out with you and your mother. I would be lost without mine and don’t pay her enough attention. This will change when she gets out of hospital tomorrow.

- - fatheroffaprincess said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    6:53 pm
yeah im sure things will work out

- - yyon4699 said
  - 29 Mar 2014
    1:02 pm
It’s great to hear that you have close relationship with your mom. I’m sure things will work out well.

- - bridgwll said
  - 17 Mar 2014
    2:32 pm
I am really glad you have reunited with your mum. Love is all you need. You have to forgive her, this doesn’t mean it was right what she did, but you need peace in you and this goes for any other family. Put the past behind you, don;t look back only look forward.

- - yyon4699 said
  - 14 Mar 2014
    10:41 pm
I wish you the best of luck!!

- - ashblonde said
  - 18 Feb 2014
    10:01 am
Regardless of your falling out with you Mum in the past, she will always be your Mum & no matter how old you get you will always need your Mum. Glad you have made the move & hope you both reconnect.

- - teacup83 said
  - 16 Feb 2014
    8:25 pm
Wonderful to hear. It must have been very hard to send that first message You should be proud of yourself!