Growing up, I knew dad had been married before mum and had 3 sons. Then he met and married mum, they had another son and 2 daughters. It was that way until I was around 15-16. I was snooping through mum and dads bedroom for Christmas presents. (Don’t judge, it was school holidays, I was home alone and very bored!) I came across a birth certificate, the mum listed was my mum, I had another brother and no one told me? I’ve heard 2 different stories, one from mum one from dad, and drawn my own conclusions. Dad said he came home from work one day and Andrew was gone, he was never talked about again. Mum said she knew it would be too hard to keep Andrew in the family. They had been on a family holiday to see how everyone would get along, dad wouldn’t go out with the family, simply refused to be seen. Mum could see Andrew would be treated differently by dad because he wasn’t his and his dad was Jamaican so Andrew was dark skinned. This was confirmed by my brother who said he remembers coming home one day and Andrew was holding a toy car. His only birthday present that mum had to sneak because dad refused to buy. My brother felt bad as it wasn’t long since he had celebrated his birthday with lots of presents. So Andrew was returned to the children’s home, nothing said or explained to him. My extra bit of info (although mums story was enough for me, dad was like that!) mum and dad immigrated from England to Australia in ’67. They were 10£ Poms. At that time, Australia had a ‘no coloureds’ policy, hence Andrew had to be abandoned. As a mum myself now, I cannot see how my mum could choose to leave her child. But she was certainly a trailblazer. Having an affair with a black man in the 50s, giving birth to his baby when they weren’t married. Then mum tried to keep him. Wow! She was also one of the first women in Australia to trial the contraceptive pill in the late 60s early 70s. She ende up pregnant with my sister :/

Posted by mom81879, 21st November 2015

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  • A very personal story,thanks for sharing it.


  • wow i wonder if you be able to find him now!


  • Wow thank you for sharing your story. Have you ever tried to find your brother?


  • My mum must have been a strong woman back in the day. Dad had beaten that out of her by the time I was old enough to notice her story

    • Dreadful for your mum and domestic violence is an enormous problem and tragedy.


  • A complicated and very personal story. Family history can be very complicated.


  • What a story! It must have been so hard on your mum leaving her child behind.
    This way she lost all the contacts with him I guess.
    My mother-in-law got pregnant in 1956, without being married. And the father didn’t want to have anything to do with the kid. The child (my sister-in-law now) was eventually adopted by my father-in-law when they married a couple of years later. But I can imagine how much people gossiped about it.


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