Mother's guilt - Real Mum story on MoM

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Everyone suffers from this guilt, some suffer more and some suffer less. My daughter is a busy, active nearly 3 yr old and some days I struggle to find things to do with her, balancing another 1yr old who is just as busy is hard too. So this week after a mini meltdown we decided to enrol her into daycare for another week, where she is well adjusted and has a great day. She is the kind of kid that needs that interaction. SO happy solution right? Wrong! Mother’s guilt is preventing me from feeling happy. I know that this is best for her but why do I feel like a bad mum for it? It gives me time for study, cleaning and bonding with my 1 year old, and it gives her what she needs. But I feel anxious, a bad mum and just like I’m not doing a job good. It’s hard to see parents who have lots of kids not using daycare or with friends who don’t need it, but what I’ve realised over this very hard self journey of mine is that every child is different, mine happens to be more social, active, alert and wants more. AND there is nothing wrong with that! Over time I will fully get that and let go of the guilt.

Posted by golanth99@hotmail.com, 14th March 2014

9 Comments

- - mums-info said
  - 30 May 2014
    3:01 pm
yeah i agree everyone goes through this

- - catgrrl3 said
  - 21 May 2014
    2:11 pm
every mother does go through this, but I assure you, we all do our best, and in the end that is all we can do

- - fatheroffaprincess said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    6:32 pm
yeah i dont know what to let her do too

- - yyon4699 said
  - 29 Mar 2014
    8:51 pm
i think this is a normal feeling. you know you shouldn’t think that but just can’t help it

- - arcticwynta said
  - 18 Mar 2014
    10:31 am
we all have guilty moments but while you have these feelings she is happy and enjoying hers time away. You are right every child is different and it sound to me as you have made a great effort to do what is right for yours. So it sounds like you are a great Mum a bad Mum would not have any of the guilt you are feeling

- - cinta said
  - 17 Mar 2014
    2:31 pm
I Think We All Get The Guilts, But Just Think She Is Happy After A While The Guilts Will Go

- - jodie80 said
  - 15 Mar 2014
    8:03 pm
yep i think we all feel the same

- - yyon4699 said
  - 14 Mar 2014
    10:16 am
I think that is pretty common

- - jodie80 said
  - 14 Mar 2014
    9:49 am
little girls are always looking for attention