My 3 year old and my Preganancy - Real Mum story on MoM

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I fell pregnant in 2014 and was so excited but unfortunately when I hit 10 weeks I had a miscarriage and explaining to my little 3 year old I no longer had a baby in my tummy was difficult. For months she kept telling the world I had a baby in my tummy and luckily in January 2015 I fell pregnant again. I had forgotten how sick I was when I was pregnant with my first so when I started with my morning sickness my little girl would just watch and say nothing. My hubby would rub my back so that’s what she started to do and by 3 months I thought it would be over but I continued to vomit every morning and feel sick every day and night. All I wished was for some relief and to be able to feel and eat like I use to. My little would question the food I would eat and what I would drink was different so she found it unusual. My answer was ‘ mummy feels sick because she has a baby in her tummy’. She would say yes momma and move on quickly. About 1 month ago she observed as I vomited again and once I was done she questioned me if I was done and if I felt better.? I answered with yes I’m ok Bella. She wrapped her arms around my neck and started crying ‘ mumma I want you to feel better I don’t like you sick’ and continued to cry. I had no idea the effect my morning sickness and pregnancy was having on my little girl. I was in tears after I saw how distressed she was seeing me. I struggle some days to play with her , feed her , be there for her as a mum and it really hurts me. We honestly need more support , research and help for mums that suffer and have no support around them during their pregnancies. It’s unfair on every mother and the kids suffer to. I know try and distract her when I’m sick and tell her I’m ok even though she knows I’m not.

Posted by mom63786, 21st August 2015

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- - dannsbuild said
  - 07 Sep 2015
    5:36 pm
Yes I do hope you feel better soon as well!

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Sep 2015
    1:17 pm
Kids see everything. I’m so sorry; this is heart breaking.

- - Carolineb said
  - 24 Aug 2015
    10:58 am
Hope you feel better soon. Sounds like you have a very caring girl. Good luck.
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:36 pm
  Thank you she is very sweet
- - mom93821 said
  - 24 Aug 2015
    6:58 am
Maybe get her a special doll to care for as this may alleviate some of her worry – poor darling!
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:37 pm
  Thank you I do like your suggestion I will give it a go
- - mom56312 said
  - 23 Aug 2015
    6:59 pm
It really hard when the Morning sickness stays throughout the pregancy. Stay strong you are doing a good job with your little one trying to keep her busy. But once bubs is here she will soon forget all about it. See if you can find any books to read to her about babies Joining the family and after you read it to her add making babies is hard work and mummies gets sick sometimes but its all ok. .
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:43 pm
  Actually I recall seeing books like this I will try and find one and give it a go – thanks for your advice I really appreciate it
- - mum4107 said
  - 23 Aug 2015
    5:06 am
You poor Mumma, that would be so tough for you. Kids don’t like to see their parents sick, but she will be ok. I hope you can find a support group as mom93821 mentioned
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:45 pm
  I might look into a support group – I just hope I feel up to getting out and about that’s the hard part
- - mom93821 said
  - 23 Aug 2015
    4:53 am
There are some brilliant support groups for anyone suffering with a difficult pregnancy. I know people who have made some brilliant friendships through these support groups. Maybe checkout fb pages for your nearest support group.
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:48 pm
  Thank you so much someone just suggested that so I will give it a go. Hopefully I can find a good support group
- - mom94125 said
  - 22 Aug 2015
    10:36 pm
it’s ok, she will be fine. Just try to simply explain it and she won’t worry
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:51 pm
  She is amazing, a lot stronger than what I thought but still it’s really hard on her
- - mom90758 said
  - 22 Aug 2015
    8:08 am
Oh my! Vomiting and feeling unwell so often must be so tiring. I’m sorry for you. Your daughter looks so sweet and understanding. I hope you will feel bad soon.
When is your baby due?
- mom63786 replied
  
  24 Aug 2015 , 8:50 pm
  It’s no fun at all, it’s starting to get to me but what can you do. I’m due end of October so hopefully time passes quickly