Never ignore the signs - Real Mum story on MoM

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Throughout my last pregnancy there were lots of signs. Pains where there shouldn’t have been pains, blotches on my legs, sweats, chills, exhaustion. As this was my third pregnancy, I know all too well that complaining about pains does not earn you much sympathy so I sucked it up and passed them all off as being normal pregnancy symptons.

Little did I know I had a 10 cm abcess poisoning my organs. An abcess that my baby would kick and pressure each time he rolled or moved. And this pain and trauma caused the little man to arrive 7 weeks early, as my body could no longer sustain him and deal with the abcess.

If I had approached a doctor earlier, been more insistant about the symptons, and insisted on a blood test my little man may have been able to go a little longer. I may not have had multiple proceedures to deal with the fallout of a burst abcess.

As mothers we are too quick to disregard our own health. We are too inclined to be super women for our families, and not for ourselves.

We have to look after ourselves first so that we can be there for our kids. Little Sebastian is thriving now, but I will never forget the scare of having him so early or my distress at being away from him and his sisters for weeks at a time while I was looked after in hospital. I will never disregard my own health again.

Posted by eliseellabban81, 19th April 2013

9 Comments

- - mum888 said
  - 18 Jan 2016
    11:58 am
This was a scary experience for you , but you really should not feel so guilty . We are human . I had serious cramps and pains on my legs and back and the doctor said it was normal ( my second one was a bit big ). This was something that you never expected and certainly never heard of , so I would have done the same thing . Most of the time I think doctors need more evidence to decide to investigate further so we are technically the guinea pigs. Great everything went well, but don’t blame yourself one bit , none of it was your fault .

- - mum888 said
  - 18 Jan 2016
    11:58 am
This was a scary experience for you , but you really should not feel so guilty . We are human . I had serious cramps and pains on my legs and back and the doctor said it was normal ( my second one was a bit big ). This was something that you never expected and certainly never heard of , so I would have done the same thing . Most of the time I think doctors need more evidence to decide to investigate further so we are technically the guinea pigs. Great everthing went well, but don’t blame yourself one bit , none of it was your fault .

- - mom81879 said
  - 12 Nov 2015
    6:41 pm
It’s always a scarey exoerience to argue with a Dr, you just always expect them to have the right answers, but it’s not always so. I’ve been having pain for months and keep getting fobbed off. It’s at the point now I have an appt and I will be demanding answers

- - mom152736 said
  - 31 Aug 2015
    11:53 pm
its soo imp..we look after everyone but forget that no ones there for us…we need to take cae of ourselves first …. must read !

- - Flackstar said
  - 30 Mar 2015
    6:29 pm
wow! 10cm. That’s huge! So glad your little man is ok and so are you.

- - mom57522 said
  - 26 Dec 2014
    11:15 pm
Great point. As mothers we often disregard our own health.

- - mel1 said
  - 23 Jul 2014
    5:55 pm
Very important post. Its easy to ignore our health while we are caring for everyone else! I wish your little boy well and thank goodness you are both OK.

- - jodie80 said
  - 28 Mar 2014
    1:39 pm
wow thats one scary story i hope it better now.

- - jodie80 said
  - 26 Mar 2014
    1:10 pm
im glad u let all the mums know about this.