How do I convince my partner that Child Care is a good idea for our 18 month old?

=S Has anyone else had this problem? He says he can’t really see the point in ‘palming him off’ to someone else when we can handle it. Meanwhile he doesn’t lift a finger around the house (except very rarely mowing)

I’ve tried pushing the fact that (even though ‘we’ CAN look after them both all the time obviously) it would mean more one on one time for our newborn, he could play with other kids (which he loves doing and his brother isn’t big enough yet really), not to mention the extra time I would have to keep the house better than ‘just okay’ but he’s really not interested at all. It would also help to have the extra blank time for him doing his Uni which he does get stuck for time doing currently… Nothing is convincing him and I’m almost at the point of just putting him in without telling him until the first morning…

I just can’t do it keep doing EVERYTHING all the time! I don’t know why he can’t seem to get this!

(Just needing a little vent!)

Posted by angelas2013, 8th May 2013

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  • I wish they’d put dates on these stories… I think daycare is great for kids socially, even one day a week.


  • I think it is more like ” I am not going to pay for it “…


  • Daycare isn’t needed just for someone to look after your kids. Yes, it’s a great break for mum. But it’s also great for the child to socialise and learn. Keep pushing for it, you and your kids deserve it


  • stories are great


  • i ike these stories


  • I wonder how you ended up getting on with this.


  • Is it about the cost? That’s what a lot of men think about as well. One sure way to get him to agree is to ‘palm him off’ to your husband while you do your newborn stuff. Literally leave the house if you have to then he might see you need the space aswell as your son needing a bit of socialising. btw don’t sweat about the house either, as soon as you think it’s perfect you’ll turn around and need to start over!

    • Oh I like your advice about ‘palming him off’ to Dad!

      • I also think it’s great advice about palming him off to hubby for a bit, to see if he will change his mind.


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