I have quite a troubled family, and over the past few years, have lost almost all contact due to differences in life choices.. After finding out I am expecting my first child, I made the decision to cut ties completely with my mother specifically due to her toxic, controlling demeanour (we were in contact quite frequently up until I reached about 5 1/2 months as I have brothers who she stops me from being able to have contact with, I am not keeping her happy). She is involved in some things that I do not wish for my child to be exposed to in life, and she cannot seem to understand my point of view on what I wish to change, due to the fact she has brought myself and my siblings up in these situations. It has gotten much worse over the years, and she has become quite aggressive, and just plain nasty in the way she speaks to, and treats people, however never admits to, or takes responsibility for it.. Not only has she caused problems with my MIL, over her ‘opinions’ she has also tried to come between my husband and myself, even going as far as creating stories to other people, that she knows will get back to us..
My sister previously dealt with similar, when her baby was born, which continued to escalate until her & her partner moved state just to get away from it all..
Even though I know I am doing the right thing for My Own Family that I am creating, I still crave the Mother Daughter bond we had years ago before she became so different, and sometimes I worry about not having someone to turn to once my baby does arrive..
Posted anonymously, 2nd September 2014