Recovering from so much - Real Mum story on MoM

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Right now I’m 3 weeks out from my prophylactic double mastectomy & reconstruction surgery.
The kast few years have been such an emotional rollercoaster for me I think it may all be catching up with me.
Im feeling a little emotional and think its alot to do with whats gone on

It all started in 2010 when Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer, it wasnt so much of a shock to me due to our family history and the fact Mum always said its not if its when. It was still heartbreaking for me. I was living with her and taking care of her throughout her treatment. I watched her go through so much. at the end of it, it actually made me stronger.
I was then put into the high risk category at the hospital and started my high risk journey that consist of MRI’s, ultrasounds and then preparing for my surgery.
During this time my neice was born with a syndrome that was a big shock to everyone. Nothing was picked up during my sister’s pregnancy and we all expected a healthy baby as she already had my nephew 3 yrs prior. I was pregnant with my twins at the time and was told a few weeks later when i was 23 weeks pregnant that my daughter twin 2 had a spinal condition. The doctors advised me to terminate her and keep her brother but couldnt tell me exactly what would be wrong, so we decided to keep her. I was not giving her up.
That same year (2011) we lost my Dad’s mum (my nanna) to cancer and a few months later we lost my Mum’s dad (my pop) also to cancer. I must say we were all broken already but 2012 wasnt such a bad year. I got married Besides all my high risk appointments and planning my surgery we didnt lose anyone. We did have a cancer scare with my aunt but everything was good.
2013 flew by and came to a screaming hault on the 17th of December when I received a phone call, Dad had a fall and was in emergency. I went to the hospital, he had a big cut on his nose and the doctors were more worried about something else. He wanted to go home but they wouldnt let him. Dad spent 5 days in hospital and then the doctors told us he has stage 4 cancer and only had 4-8 weeks to live. My beautiful mum took him home, even though they have been divorced since 96. She took him back to the home they shared while married and the home we were a family. He was so happy to be home and the next 4 weeks were special. We spent almost everyday with Dad. Christmas came and went and I was so glad to still have him here. Then exactly 4 weeks since he got out of hospital he passed away. Very peacefully, in my old bedroom, with us all there. We all got to say good bye. He passed away the exact same day his Mum passed in 2011. Nanna came and took him with her
Im now currently recovering from my surgery, which was 12 hours and a week stay in hospital. I have a long road ahead of me and trying to keep positive. Im hoping my emotional state is just a phase and something i just need to do for now

Posted by mrsgreen12, 3rd May 2014

8 Comments

- - mom134803 said
  - 28 Nov 2016
    1:39 am
Aw bless you, what an intensive times you have behind you.
How beautiful your mum took your dad home during the last stage of his life, back to the home they shared when you were a family.
I hope you have sweet family and friends around you who support and help you.
Take care !

- - catgrrl3 said
  - 20 May 2014
    9:00 pm
thank you for sharing your story, I cannot imagine what has gone through your head, nor even having to make that choice, but you have shown you are strong and determined, I wis you the best and hope you have a speedy recovery

- - cherz said
  - 04 May 2014
    8:43 pm
Great advice from the mums here. You have gone through a lot and need to get all this out in the open. Stay strong and look after yourself, rest when your body tells you to and remember to have plenty of me time. Sending strength, love and healing thoughts your way.

- - christial said
  - 04 May 2014
    9:10 am
Oh I am so sorry for all that has happened to you in the last few years. Stay strong and hang in there, our prayers will be with you.

- - arcticwynta said
  - 04 May 2014
    8:43 am
oh Hon I was so sad to see what you have been through and it is normal to be emotional with all that you have and are going through. If you need to cry than do it if you don’t want to get out of bed than stay in it. You will have alot of highs and lows BUT don’t feel guilty for how ever you feel. sending you a hug Hon

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 03 May 2014
    9:56 pm
You have been through so, so much that if you didn’t have an emotional outpoor at some stage you would probably burst. I can’t imagine going what you have goner through, but I’m no stranger to a situation that caused me great stress and I kept it all inside until I eventually had an outburst of emotion. Your mother sounds like a saint and you are so very strong. I hope coming on here and sharing your story with us mummies helps and I wish you all the best xxx

- - chezza63 said
  - 03 May 2014
    8:46 pm
Oh Emma, your such a brave person, you’re going through such a life changing situation right now, no wonder your emotions are all over the place!
With so much heartache in your life with your loved ones going through all they have, you should be proud of yourself for being so strong and resilient.
I know it would have been hard to lose your Dad, but so happy for you and your family to be able to spend time with him when he needed it the most.
So nice of your Mum to put past grievances behind her to look after him in your childhood home, making his time all that more special.
Hang in there, you are doing great!!

- - Kelly said
  - 03 May 2014
    8:31 pm
Im so sorry to hear of all the heart ache you have gone through over the last few years.
I hope your recovery continues to go strong, my mum passed away from breast cancer 5 years ago her mother also died from it, myself and my sisters have been told that we could be at risk but stupidly they won’t screen me till I’m 40 (I’m 35)
I really hope that everything goes well for you xx