School Fairness - Real Mum story on MoM

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So my boys started Prep this year and it has become apparent that in their class there are quite a few ‘silly’ and ‘rough’ boys. The teacher has her hands full to the point that I worry her attention is taking up too much by disciplining and therefore the ‘good’ kids get overlooked. At the risk of sounding completely petty, a boy who has been trouble a lot (including an incident where he punched my son in the gut) had one good day by not getting involved with other kids in his class getting in trouble and then received a Certificate for ‘getting along’. Meanwhile my son who has been good all year and always gets along with everyone is still sitting patiently every Monday at assembly waiting for his certificate! I just feel really bad for him, (especially as his twin brother has already received one). It must be confusing to see the boy who gets in trouble all the time get a certificate, he must be thinking ‘what do I have to do!’. Instead he just says in a sad voice, ‘I didn’t get a certificate mum’, or ‘I wish assembly was everyday’ or ‘I can’t wait to get a certificate’. I just encourage him to keep being fantastic and try his best and not to worry. It still breaks my heart seeing his disappointment and confusion.

Posted by fiveinthehive, 28th May 2013

5 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 03 Oct 2015
    7:39 pm
school fariness

- - mom87771 said
  - 29 May 2015
    12:27 pm
From a teachers point of view I understand exactly what the school is trying to do however I also understand how your son would feel. It’s always better to get things off your chest rather than bottle it up & say something inappropriate one day. So……. When we have parents that might be feeling uncomfortable about something we encourage them to talk it over with either the teacher, the year level coordinator or the principal. It may help you feel better.

- - shazzbot said
  - 11 Apr 2014
    7:59 am
As it as been a while since you posted this, I truly hope your son did recieve a certificate. He sounds like an angel. I know what you mean, regarding terribly behaved kids with awards, I remember them doing this years ago when my kids were in kindy. They would also come home disappointed.

- - rupa said
  - 28 May 2013
    11:36 am
You and your son are not alone, I’ve often noticed that the louder more boisterous kids get most of the attention while the quieter ones can get overlooked. Then when one of these kids does make the effort they are noticed and get rewarded while the quite kid just keeps plugging along in the background. You are doing the right thing and giving your son the right advice, it’s hard but just keep doing what you’re doing. I’m sure his turn will come soon as his brother already has received a certificate. I’ve seen my daughter be overlooked a few times and I know it’s so hard to not say anything, I’ve had to grit my teeth every now and then as I’m sure you have too. Good luck I hope he gets acknowledged soon.
- mom57522 replied
  
  03 Jan 2015 , 4:09 pm
  I hear you loud and clear!