Time to sit back and observe - Real Mum story on MoM

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I had the pleasure of sharing some time with my neighbour’s Grandchild a few week ago. I pulled out the box of age appropriate puzzles and games. We were having a great time. I was observing how this “quiet and reserved” child was taking the initiative. I could see the pleasure on this child’s face as they achieved so much by themselves. I was sitting there if needed however, it became obvious to me that this child is smothered by the well meaning grandparent. When the grandmother came to collect her grandchild, the child wanted to share why they ere doing. Immediately the grandparent stepped in and took over instead of listening and observing what her grandchild was doing and achieving without adult interference. The look of disappointment on the child’s face was immediate and almost broke my heart. I had no choice but to step in and wind up the play session and say goodbye to a broken and dismayed child.

Isn’t it wonderful to be able to stand back and watch. Let children grow and bathe in their own achievements. Let’s not smother and hinder them, hard as it may be.

Posted by kkinked, 1st January 2014

11 Comments

- - mom93821 said
  - 10 Aug 2015
    4:07 am
Stepping back is important and watching children develop. Children need to explore and learn and also make mistakes.

- - mom94125 said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    10:25 pm
i agree. i have a family member who helicopters over my children
- mom93821 replied
  
  11 Aug 2015 , 4:41 am
  Helicopters should be banned – “No Helicopters”
- - mom113055 said
  - 29 Apr 2015
    7:20 pm
stories are great to read

- - mom57522 said
  - 09 Jan 2015
    9:15 pm
I find it hard not to take over but, I’m getting better.

- - BellaB said
  - 01 Aug 2014
    8:27 pm
It’s hard sometimes to find the line between joining in and taking over.

- - coppin85 said
  - 31 May 2014
    2:33 pm
yes its great when they are proud of their achievements

- - fatheroffaprincess said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    8:12 pm
i hope all is going well

- - yyon4699 said
  - 30 Mar 2014
    7:38 pm
It’s part of their growing experience that money can’t buy! So happy for you

- - della said
  - 01 Jan 2014
    10:23 pm
Well said,sometimes they need there own space to explore there ability’s even though we want to jump in and help

- - katelt said
  - 01 Jan 2014
    3:59 pm
It is hard – taking that step back, but so worth it!