To volunteer or not to - Real Mum story on MoM

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I have been volunteering at my children’s school for the past 4 years. The principle and I have not got along very well for most of these years. The problem escalated last week with her speaking to me very nasty for letting her know there was a problem with a blocked toilet (I feel it was not my duty to see the groundsman it is hers). Anyways my question is should i put up and shut up and continue to help the school cause many others benefit or quit. I am unsure cause i feel I don’t deserve to be treated badly when i help so much.

Posted anonymously, 26th February 2014

10 Comments

- - mom112217 said
  - 21 Sep 2016
    12:55 pm
If l wasn’t getting paid and was treated nasty l would say see-ya later!

- - mom81879 said
  - 06 Sep 2015
    10:26 am
You should probably keep volunteering. But don’t put up and shut up. Voice your opinions and respond to the nastiness, with nastiness if need be. Don’t let one horrid person stop you

- - Michelle said
  - 29 Jul 2014
    9:30 am
If that was me, I’d write her a letter or email letting her know how I feel and quit at the same time, plenty of other organisations out in the community that are screaming out for volunteers and would appreciate your time. Life’s too short to be wasted on unappreciative people.

- - catgrrl3 said
  - 21 May 2014
    12:35 pm
I think maybe if you compromise first, she may see this and start to do the same, you want whats best, and if you enjoy volunteering, I would not give it up

- - kathryn said
  - 30 Apr 2014
    9:01 am
If you enjoy volunteering than keep doing it!

- - yyon4699 said
  - 29 Mar 2014
    9:58 pm
Maybe you are too nice to ppl and they take you for granted. My hubby is a great example….

- - jodie80 said
  - 23 Mar 2014
    6:14 pm
its not fair but i would just leave it

- - yyon4699 said
  - 19 Mar 2014
    12:23 pm
that is so unfair! some people just take things for granted. you should stop volunteering ><

- - aussiemum said
  - 26 Feb 2014
    1:04 pm
I think that like any relationship, a parent/school relationship can have its ups and downs. There are people that we may not get along with personally, but have to find a way of working together for the good of the children. My personal opinion is that you should continue to volunteer because it sounds as though you and the children benefit a lot from it. Don’t let a clash of personalities with one person stop you from volunteering. Perhaps try to raise it directly with the principal when you’re both not so overly sensitive? You could say that you’ve noticed some tension between the two of you developing and that you wanted to clear the air before it became a problem?

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
- hopefullyheidi replied
  
  21 Apr 2014 , 6:50 pm
  I think I would agree here. Even though it’s volunteering it is the same issues we face in any relationship as you say and like in the work force there will always be those whose personality dynamics mix better than others, but in order to get the job done we have to find common ground and a way to make things work so that we can have a good working relationship. I say if it is starting to affect you emotionally though and it is something you feel you can’t get past, then maybe I would think long and hard about whether it is worth the angst.