wanting a boy baby then realising it doesnt matter what i have

hi everyone

I had 2 girls and was pregnant again with our thrid baby. I had the grandparents and my dad and people up at the kids school saying to me are you going to try for a boy before i was pregnant this time and it had better be a boy this time to carry on the rainbow name as my husband is a only child.

I tried the swaying for a boy but found it so hard with the food you need to eat and ending up putting so much weight.

Since everyone was going on about us needing to have a boy so much my husband was getting depressed about it especially once we found out it was a girl.

At the end of the day i realised i didnt want to keep going until i had a boy to make others happy or to carry on a name.
I was happy with having a girl as its what i use to and she was happy and healthy.

Sure it would of been awesome to have a boy but im sure one of my children will have one, one day and i can help them with him and be the fun grandma.

Posted by melodydamom, 8th October 2015

8 Comments

- - mom94125 said
  - 01 Jan 2016
    1:30 pm
good on you for knowing what is best for you! after 2 girls, i felt pressure to have the boy (which i did) but it wasn’t because anyone told me too! i agree with being happy with the wonderful child that you are blessed with! you know, you can keep having babies with no guarantee that you will get the boy. just ask my nanna! 5 boys waiting for a girl lol

- - mom165081 said
  - 22 Dec 2015
    3:35 pm
Pressure to have a boy is so old old fashioned and unreasonable. I still remember my parents in law saying to me after I had a girl “you can use her to practice parenting and make mistakes with and try again for a boy”. I was disgusted by this and took the matter up with my husband. Luckily he was quite offended to. We still don’t have any boys and love and cherish our family just the way it is. We see very little of these people!!!

- - mom81879 said
  - 10 Oct 2015
    11:22 am
You sure don’t need to have a boy to carry on the family name in today’s day and age! And your girls could choose to keep their surname
- mom93821 replied
  
  11 Oct 2015 , 9:52 am
  Yep – many people do which is a personal choice.
- - mom56312 said
  - 09 Oct 2015
    10:05 pm
You know its the luck of the draw, all that matters is that its a healthy bubs. I can understand the hubby wanting a boy but i am sure once he sees the daughter and that its healthy he will not care at all.

- - BellaB said
  - 09 Oct 2015
    5:28 pm
This kind of pressure is so unfair.

- - mom103936 said
  - 09 Oct 2015
    4:13 pm
The main thing is that the baby is healthy!

- - mom93821 said
  - 09 Oct 2015
    7:10 am
Girls or boys – it does not matter as long as babies are happy and healthy. There is no guarantee that a boy child when a man will have children and there is no guarantee of a girl when a woman will marry and have children. Therefore – names may not carry on anyway. A woman may keep her maiden name if she marries. It is such a different world. It is a blessing to have children of any gender.