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Please give a wonderfully warm Mouths of Mums welcome to Kerry Townsend, our newest MoM Panel member.  Kerry runs a unique and incredibly helpful site just for mums Mother’s Toolkit which we absolutely love.  Her blogs are always insightful, informative and from the heart.  So welcome Kerry – we look forward to your wonderful words of wisdom each month on MoM. x

“In many cultures the process of bringing up children is shared by the whole family, and in some cases, the whole community.  Parents in these situations rarely feel overwhelmed because there is a large support network on hand.  Today, it is much more common for people to be away from their families and find themselves in a more isolated situation.

If you don’t have family and friends to call on, consider what resources are available to you, contact your local council and ask about relevant community services.  Or create a support network yourself. This can take courage to initiate but there are already associations such as Playgroup Australia who can help you in doing this.

Being isolated and the associated feelings can be detrimental; if you can join or start a likeminded group of mothers you can help each other move through your challenges.  Parenting is a demanding and exhausting job and smart mums just like you reach out and ask for help every day, which shows strength and courage by putting your family needs in front of your ego. Asking for support is a positive action, which will produce positive results for you and your family.

Having a support group of other mums that you can get together with on a regular basis to swap stories and discuss what’s happening will help so you don’t feel like you’re alone. You can go one step further and organise within the group to help each other out by having a cooking pool once a month where you all get together and cook dishes in bulk that you can share and freeze to have extra meals available. As well as working out a baby sitting pool whereby you each get a night out with your partner once a month. And you plan one day a month at each Mums house for a housework spree? The benefits will be endless, for you, the other mums, and your families!

This week’s challenge: Make the effort this week to meet up with a group of mums, to chat, share some stories and lighten the load! If you’re not currently part of a mums group, playgroup, school or church group, then make the effort this week to actively find one – create a support network!

Until next week, Be True, Be You, Be Happy!
Kerry
http://www.motherstoolkit.com.au/

A note from MoM:

Always remember, you are never alone – there is always help available. Get in touch with Playgroup Australia – they have a fantastically resourced website and can tell you about Playgroups in your local area that you’ll be able to join. Contact your local Early Childhood Centre or sometimes your local shopping centre may even host a regular morning catch up session for mums – our local one, an AMP Shopping Centre has a monthly Mums & Bubs group. And of course, you could have a FREE Consultation with Kerry Townsend and gain insight on your current situation and what you can do to avoid feeling isolated.

  • The process of bringing up children in the Samoan culture, is not my idea of a happy family-My friends fiance is Samoan and it is customary for their culture give their child up to the grandparents to look after- my friend only gets her own child for 3 to 4 days a week whilst the grandparent have it the rest of the time-how do you ever build a close bond with your child in a situation like that.

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  • There are support groups out there but the one thing I have found very hard is if you don’t have a car you can not get long to things the public transport where I live is just about non-existent and to far to walk

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  • The more support and friends i am getting as baby gets older the more i am enjoying parenting

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  • A good circle of friends ( support structure ) is really very important and vital when we have kids………..

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  • I guess I didn’t follow the text book on this one, as I have never been in a mothers group or similar.

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  • Ive just moved to new place and feel so isolated and alone as I left all family and friends 1000 kms behind but this does sound good

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  • The biggest mistake I feel I made when I had my baby was not to join the local mothers group when the child health nurse suggested it 🙁 As an older mum (37) I was unsure of hanging out with mums who I felt would be a lot younger. Also bub suffered from silent reflux and so I was only averaging about half an hours sleep a night and so I was exhausted for the first 3 months of his life – the thought of getting dressed, going out and meeting people was not a thought I relished. But now he’s 14 months old I wish that I had joined a group so he had the opportunity to grow up with others and I had other mums with babies the same age to talk to.

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  • When I had my kids we lived overseas and I knew no one and had no family so the friends I made were vey important and I am so grateful to them all for their support. Women are very good at supporting each other I think it is a natural instinct. Everyone needs friends.

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  • ypu can also try looking on facebook or other social sites, Ive just had a bub (15yrs since the last time) and I found a local group via fb of older mums who meet for coffee every fortnight just for a chat. I was lucky this time around as I now live locally to my mum, for the last 3 we lived 5hrs away and she didnt get to see them as often as she does now. A great network of family and friends really helps, even if its just to have an adult chat about nothing

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  • Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to be isolated!

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