It is so hard as you only see what has been shown in the media, No matter what I think people need to try and think what it would be like to be in this woman’s shoes rather than judging her

i hate the fact that this child was chained to a bed. that is horrible. i dont completely understand what is like to have an autistic child as i dont have one but i do know people with autistic children and i have never once heard of them needing to chain their child to the bed. it alarms me that the mother just gets away with this. i do hope that they get support going forward because this poor child cant be restrained all his life when the mother cant cope. there is an obvious need for the family to get trained in how to deal with the boys behavioral issues.

The strain the mother was under to have chained her son to a bed must have been huge as there was no case of neglect of this child nor the other five.

Not enough support and more reserceneeded for autism in general. As loke everything can vary. Feel so sad for Mum as she has her hands full, but where is the help, am quite disgusted with our health system (or lack of ,more resource required.

It is disturbing to read such story, do you think the health system failed us?

This was horrific and saddened me so much, I cried. Whilst not in that family’s shoes, it just seemed barbaric. They obviously need urgent help and support. I hope they get it.

He should be in School – but in all likelihood, it’s the School refusing to take him. A friend’s Autistic child is allowed in School for 1 hour and 20 mins a day – he’s in year 7. He’s never had a full day of School – even though he is now in a Special Class with supposedly trained teachers. He’s a lovely child with some behavioural issues. The School says they can’t control him. I’ve babysat him – he’s fine. You just have to engage him in something he is interested in – not sit him in a corner with a sheet of Maths and a sheet of English questions and not expect him to get bored and muck up.

They never said how long he was chained up for – I’m assuming she chained him up so she could go to the shops – and would have unchained him when she got home. It’s probably the only way she could go get food.

People say that there is support out there – sadly in many cases, there is not. If my friend’s child was low IQ with Autism – there is an entire Special School he can go to. Because he is very intelligent and Autistic – they don’t know where to put him.

I’ve worked as a psychiatric nurse for many years in hospitals and institutes and there were times we had to restrain clients for their own safety or for others (including our own) safety, despite the fact their was plenty of personnel.
You might keep a person with Alzheimer also on a small structured unit behind locked doors. This is just as much a form of restraining, but we do this to keep the person safe and protect him/her from harm. The same way we could see this case.
It would be good though to have a formal written advice about this from the professional in charge of this boy.
I feel for this family who’re in lack of support and hope things are going to change for them !

I believe the police and authorities have done what legally is required, we do not live in the house or know the family or child or how bad his autism is, let’s just hope he gets the care he needs and the family get the support.

I would hate to be virtually a single mum with 6 children in a country where I had not grown up and trying to understand the system where I am now. I think this mom was trying her best – she had to shop for her family and for whatever reason couldn’t take her autistic child with her, so she kept him safe by making sure he couldn’t leave the house and be molested, hurt, run over, or whatever, and probably this would be acceptable in the country she had left. Obviously if she wasn’t charged by the police, they accepted what she had to say. Who knows why he isn’t in school – has the school sent him home because they can’t cope with him, has no school accepted him, we don’t know. Before we judge and criticise, maybe we should walk a mile in her shoes.

When my severely autistic son was about 2 years old, I was reported to Police by neighbours because I had tied some rope to his pants so that I could hang out the washing and not have to worry about him running away. (He had run away before and the Ministry of Housing refused to put up secure fencing/gates). The police checked with his doctor, who confirmed that his advice to me was to use the rope to ensure his safety. I feel sorry for the mother in this case. It appears to be her way of keeping her son safe also. It isn’t always easy to ask for help for some but it is actually harder to get that help! My son is nearly 34 and is in the photo with me below.

yes so sad that she didn’t have the help she needed. it would be so hard by herself but hopefully it’ll never happen again.

So sad. I hope the family gets the extra support they need

So sad. I’m glad she wasn’t charged. Hopefully now she will receive the help she needs for her son.

Not for me to judge …but chaining him up is wrong and thats that.

oh I hope now that there is more facts to hand that some sort of charity or organisation steps in and helps this single mother and provides support and assistance

Thank you MOM’s for updating your readers here and following up this story

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  • • angelskies replied
    • 12 Nov 2015 , 9:23 pm

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  You mean other then the one that was already doing so?

Such a sad story, for the boy and his mum and the siblings. I saw some of the neighbours on the news the other night and they said how hard the mother is finding it, being a single mum to 6 kids and this one being autistic. The mum has been released with no charges, so no abuse or neglect is happening, which is a happy note

She has not been charged? I don’t know. To me it seems like what she did wasn’t “ok” at all. I hope she will get regular help now and that her child will be under supervision.

Lke js

this is disgusting he is a child like any other and how dare she walk free after tieing him to a bed because she couldn’t control him if he was autistic would she have walked free, no because it child abuse and she needs to be punished if she needed help then only need to ask for it if the child wasn’t found how long would this have gone on for, possibly till there was a death or murder because the parent has 5 children and one with a disability that she can’t handle……….. he is still a child no matter his disability..