I can totally relate to this article as I often feel this way too

Stressful

Sole parent, all responsibility is thankfully all mine. Life is good.

Nope! Definitely the kids! My husband may think otherwise but it’s without a doubt the kids for me!

Haha yep I can definitely see how the partner causes the stress, I see the way my mum and dad carry on haha god help my future!
I must admit I do have it good with my partner at the present time he certainly does is fair share

We try and share what we can but he does stress me out at times..lol

This is so true….i am stressing as i have to.much on me compared to my husnand

we share most of it all, it keeps us all well balanced

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 11 Feb 2020 , 6:58 am

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  It is so important to have balance and make sure everyones needs are met.

We share all responsibilities and support each other.

There is no sharing of anything in my home. I have always been the sole parent, house keeper, bill payer etc etc etc. My partner doesn’t contribute to anything on the home front, never has and never will. It’s a constant source of stress and arguments for myself. My kids did more around the house then my partner ever has!

My partners were toxic and abusive so I definitely felt incredible stress that affected my physical and emotional health. I can’t stand the thought of any more potential stress which is why I have no desire to partner with someone again. Not for a long time anyway. I like being able to breathe and not being controlled.

total agree with this

It can be a tough situation.

???? per cent agree with this. I read once that a woman’s workload increases more when she moves in with a male partner then it does when she has a baby! I ???? per cent agree with that too. I don’t know how it happened, but I do everything, inside and outside, and it’s something I constantly complain to him about

The only thing that really annoys me is that certain things are assumed about our kids and who’s responsible for it.

I know one Dad who does as much or on some cases more of the chores the Mum does. The only thing he rarely does is the cleaning. He does all the outside work and fixes anything that needs to be maintained, repaired etc.

I do tend to do more around the house as I am a stay at home mum of 3 kids under 4. My husband works hard doing his pHd in mechanical engineering at uni, so I’m more than happy to be changing all the nappies, housework etc. He actually helps out so much still, especially at bedtime. I’m so thankful he does!
He actually even minds the kids occasionally if I feel like I need to go have fun shopping for a few hours.

I saw a good quote – women are expected to work like they don’t have kids, and raise kids like they don’t work. Seems true to me!

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  • • Carly replied
    • 03 May 2019 , 9:44 am

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  it’s the mental burden as well, always having to remind someone to do something

My husband and I both used to work full time but I was lucky enough to find a couple of great baby sitters. I didn’t have a choice but when I got home it was still my job to cook the meals, do the laundry and look after the boys. He helped out whenever he could.

We share things very well in our family. My hubby has always been a present father and even taken employment that means he can spend more time with our son. He helps with cooking, taxi-ing, attends meetings and appointments. He’s a good one. But, we’re all in this together, too.