Turn your frown upside down; overcome negative thoughts.

What’s on your mind? How is your attitude? What are you talking about? What are you saying to yourself?

Do you even know? Do you know if your thoughts, conversation, self-talk and attitude are mostly positive or negative? The answer will be evident from your outcomes.

Nobody likes being browbeaten. What would happen if a person continually picked on another? The person being picked on would gradually cower into the background and confidence and self-worth would be depleted to a point when they may feel too scared to do anything.

Negative Thoughts Stop You From Achieving Your Dreams

So often, this is what people are doing to themselves without even realising it! This is what you are doing to yourself when you choose to punish yourself with negative self-talk. Negativity such as fear, blame, doubt, excuses, punishment, procrastination, will have a harmful impact. What you focus on, grows. If you are often having negative thoughts it’s likely that you are limiting yourself and stopping yourself from achieving your goals and dreams.

Make A Conscious Choice!

Happiness will come from happy thoughts, which may be much easier said than done, especially during challenging times. However, when you catch yourself being negative, consciously choose optimism and turn your attitude around. Compliment yourself, recognise progress, have loving and good thoughts for yourself and others. Have an attitude of gratitude and talking kindly about others as opposed to gossiping is much more fulfilling. You will change your life for the better when you change your thinking for the better. Take charge of your thoughts, overcome negative thinking and reach for the stars!

As a mother, being positive not only benefits you but also those around you – especially your children. Don’t underestimate the influence you have on your family and friends. It’s not much fun being around a negative Nelly!

This coming week’s challenge:

Consciously be aware of your thoughts, conversation, self-talk and attitude this week. Is it mostly positive or negative?

If you catch yourself out being negative, do something physical to help you be aware of how often you are being pessimistic. Eg: do a squat (lower yourself down to a sitting position and get up again), or swap your watch to your other arm, etc, each time you catch yourself out. If you choose a squat, or run on the spot, or push up etc you will certainly know the next day how negative you’ve been! It also makes others around you be aware of their negative mindset – because they’re bound to ask you what you’re doing! Get your family involved, but make sure you’re the role model by leading a good example!

What are your tips to stop negative thoughts and encourage positive thinking? Tell us in the comments below.

149 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 13 Mar 2024
    11:56 am
My Mum was a real pollyanna and I try really hard to follow in her footsteps

- - Ellen said
  - 04 Jul 2022
    3:48 pm
Some good suggestions in this article, I like in specific how you can make a conscious choice in this and take charge over your thoughts.

- - mom400215 said
  - 23 Apr 2021
    8:51 pm
Sometimes I find my attitude can be influenced by the people I am around. If they are really negative, I find sometimes that I become rather negative. I am always trying to assess and improve my attitude and self-talk. Of course we are always going to have days we just aren’t feeling great and that’s okay too.

- - mom111316 said
  - 22 Apr 2021
    9:49 pm
Just the article I needed to read right now.

- - shanika said
  - 18 Apr 2021
    6:50 pm
I am kind of person experiencing this more often.I found doing more physical exercise and do some meditation helps lot.

- - mom322089 said
  - 14 Apr 2021
    2:58 pm
Great article and gives me lots to think about.

- - rovermum said
  - 12 Apr 2021
    12:25 pm
Deep breathing. Meditation. Yoga. Writing my thoughts into a journal to clear them from my mind. All things I try to do regularly.

- - kaylarenee said
  - 12 Apr 2021
    8:57 am
This is something I have struggled with a lot, particularly over the last eight months duet to some big life crisis’s.
The number one thing I found that helped both myself and those around me that were also struggling was the tip of gratitude journalling daily.
Making it a regular ‘habit’ makes you stop to think, ‘hold on’ – what do I have to be ‘grateful’ for – it kind of makes that ‘negativity’ hold bay and remind yourself that you have things in your life to be grateful for always. Make it a habit daily and it can help (even in a small way).

- - tonkalass said
  - 12 Apr 2021
    7:49 am
My daughter suffers from anxiety and negative thoughts. Wish there was a quick fix for her

- - Jujubear79 said
  - 11 Apr 2021
    8:35 pm
Negative thoughts are scary and very hard to over come….having had PND and been in a dark place I know that there is light at the end of dark days and if negative thoughts are taking over seek help….

- - tessie said
  - 11 Apr 2021
    2:43 pm
I suffer with manic depression and noticed I’ve been a lot worse since I lost my husband and had to give up work through chronic back injury. When I’m feeling really bad my son and I go out for a coffee at the local cafe.
- Ellen replied
  
  12 Apr 2021 , 7:47 am
  Aw bless, that sounds hard. Good on you for not isolating !
- - Mom466555 said
  - 11 Apr 2021
    1:37 pm
I try to be honest with myself and catch myself out when I’m thinking that way and immediately think of three things I’m greatful for.

- - Mrs.twinmama said
  - 11 Apr 2021
    10:36 am
I’m going through this a lot lately, negativity is painful.
- Ellen replied
  
  12 Apr 2021 , 5:04 am
  Aw bless you twinmumma, can you reach out to someone to get support ?
- - mom475806 said
  - 10 Apr 2021
    11:09 am
I’m a very can do person but lately I think why do I bother and what’s it really worth but then I thought nope pick that chin up and what is best for my family took a big step and did what I wanted now I’m having doubts but I know that’s not my thoughts that’s others I just have to keep telling myself it’s for better me

- - Frankiielot said
  - 10 Apr 2021
    12:41 am
It’s definitely hard to be positive all the time but you need to tell yourself that things happen for a reason.
I think the best thing is to not over think things when times are tough because you can get yourself into a big black hole. Focus on what’s important in your life and what things you have that make you happy.

- - mom113991 said
  - 09 Apr 2021
    9:36 pm
Just what I needed to read. Sometimes all we need is a little reminder of what’s most important. Great advice!

- - ashna9 said
  - 09 Apr 2021
    5:58 pm
Positive self talk.

- - Zmijka86 said
  - 09 Apr 2021
    2:41 pm
I wish I could just shut my mind and relax.

- - TanikaMichelle said
  - 08 Apr 2021
    6:38 pm
Being kind to ourselves and more self care and self love goes a long way.. Removing negative or toxic people from your life helps alot and amazing how good it makes you feel

- - Mervamy said
  - 08 Apr 2021
    12:41 pm
I used to be such a Happy go lucky person but since I got sick 3 years ago everything has gone down hill as I cannot do the things I used to be able to which is so darn hard
- Ellen replied
  
  09 Apr 2021 , 4:35 am
  Bless you Mervamy, that is hard !