The wedding was child free. If someone asks you “Do you have children?” …what do you say? “No….but I do have a 10mth old baby”….. ??? Im sure if asked that question you would say that yes you do. Your 10mth old is a child and therefore should 100% have not been at the wedding. You were very rude to take the child. If you didnt want to leave the child with the babysitter then you do not attend the wedding. YOU were 100% in the wrong and owe a massive apology.

At 10 months old I don’t think this is the right decision. I think the bride and grooms wishes should have been respected.

10 months old is old enough to be left with another family member or carer. A newborn up 4 months or so would need to be with Mum but not a 10 month old.

I think it was the wrong move! If it’s clear there are no kids you need to respect that. If there was a need to request, it should not have been on the rsvp it should have been a phone call to the cousin. Your either go and follow the rules our don’t go at all.

Its very rude to bring a child to a wedding they weren’t invited to. Kids are very disruptive and get bored super easily, definitely not a place for kids.

I would be furious if someone did this at my wedding. She should have either made her own arrangements for child care or stayed home. It sounds like she didn’t even ask if she could bring the baby, she said she RSVP’d she WAS bringing the baby. Just rude!

I think she did wrong…she knew it going to be child free event.

Yes you were in the wrong. Should have reached out and spoke to them… Or just not gone

Definitely not right if mention that it is child free

Communication by all parties was lacking.

I would not take a baby to a wedding, but if I had to One of the parents would stay home

I think they were both partly to blame. The soon to be bride and groom for not replying to the new Mum and also to the new Mum who should have got in touch some way to clarify it would be okay. It’s just a lack of communication but not a reason to start a family feud.

I really think you need to respect that this was theirspecial day and they gave everyone the same instructions and that was not to bring children. Might be worth treating others like you want to be treated and using your listening skills.

Sounds like a very big break down of communication

I don’t think this was handled too well. Why didn’t she communicate this clearly?

You did inform them in writing on the rsvp so I would have taken the child too.

I wouldn’t have been keen to leave my kids with a stranger I get that but that’s why my husband or I stay back with the kids. You need to respect the person whose function it is and abide the rules they set.

I think that a phone call prior to deciding whether to go or not would have been in order. And maybe both sides are wrong in this case as the bride and groom could also have phoned. It is very annoying to have a baby crying during a wedding ceremony or any other church service for that matter, so the new mum should have thought long and hard before doing what she did.

I would have literally just stayed home… plus not sure why she couldn’t pick up the phone and talk to her cousin about it.. no one talks to anyone these days. And yes you are in the wrong

Should have actually spoken to the cousin before hand not just written you are taking bub on the RSVP.
Personally I feel there are three options…hire your own baby sitter, one parent goes to the wedding and one stays at home with bub or both parents decline the invite .

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 30 Jun 2022 , 5:24 pm

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  All good and sensible options.