There could be many reasons ranging from things like there being younger children that need naps and perhaps your child is not used to having to tone down a little while a younger one sleeps. (Not really doing anything wrong…just being a kid)
My daughters always had friend over to play and on one occassion I was horrified when a little girl started jumping up and down on our lounge suite as if it was a trampoline. My kids had been taught from a young age that this sort of behaviour was not acceptable.
Another child I found whenever I gave them lunch if it was something he didnt like then he would mush it and stick it to the underside of the table when no one was looking. That was not fun to clean up once discovered.

A friend of mine had a friend of her daughters over once and the Mum arrived with the child and a bag of treats for the kids to share. One of the things was a bottle of red fizzy drink. Part way through the day the kids asked if they could have some of the drink so my friend gave each of them a glass and told them all to stay in the dining area with the drinks and told them that under no circumstances were they to go into the launge area with their drinks. The friend ignored this and while in the lounge area dropped her red fizzy drink all over the brand new carpet that had only been installed the week before. This child was never invited back.

I know I’m too busy at the moment to have kids over, but hopefully in the future

They should come from both Mum’s as it’s better for the kids to feel they are wanted at each others homes

It could just be the parents liking it that way. I know I always preferred my kids go visit their friends rather then the friends visit here. I think my kids preferred it too, a big if freedom from mum and dad and the annoying siblings

Each to there own, my daughter has had a friend come and stay a few times but my daughter has only stayed once their, we usually invite friends when we are going or doing something where my daughter will feel left out (all boys)

Search out new contacts who may be more in a place to have playdates, not everybody has the time or energy!

I have a friend who doesn’t deal with when lots of people are at get house so we are very rarely incite to their house. I’m now than happy to have her and her family cone to ours if it makes her feel more comfortable. My kids aren’t up to sleep over ages yet so will see what happens when they are. It’s a big responsibility to look after someone else’s child. They may be anxious about something going wrong.

Maybe have a quiet word with the other parents to find out if it’s just your child or if they don’t have any play dates. That should then set your mind at ease.

It’s tricky. It is certainly nice when play dates are reciprocated – especially for the kids and they do love other people’s houses but you shouldn’t have others children over expecting that it will be reciprocated. Some people are time poor and the last thing they want is other children to entertain/feed. For me personally I love having my kids friends over. You get a real idea of what the friendships are like and seeing your kids interact with their peers

It’s nice when it’s reciprocated but sometimes your house is the sleepover house for all the kids friends…lol

My son loved to go to other people’s houses where there were siblings as he’s an only child, however I know that his friends loved to come to our house to get away from their siblings. There may be more at play in terms of the reasons why. I organised play dates all the time simply because my son was an only child and I wanted him to socialise.

Sometimes it can be to the parents working or if the other parent isn’t as well off as you they may feel that the child may think it’s boring at their house because they don’t have as much “stuff” as their friend. (likewise the parent may feel embarrassed that they don’t have as many toys, technology etc)

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  • • sunflower replied
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  Yes or they have siblings with special needs or ill or a bunch of other reasons like that.

Although my children are grown, I found that my children usually had a two-way street, however I have noticed with my grandchildren that this does not seem to occur to the same extent. I feel that this is often due to the parent’s working hours and other commitments which seem to be greater these days.

I think everyone can have personal preferences. I don’t always want people at me house and sometimes I do. I would be quiet hurt if someone was getting huffy cause I didn’t invite them over. Not everything is an even give and take …

People are strange when it comes to social etiquette. I have a friend who always wants me to come over to her place for play dates and always seems to find an excuse not to come to mine. I don’t know why but it’s annoying

My oldest did not have many reciprocal Playdates in prep and I did wonder why. Many parents work full time and have so little family time that they save their weekends for this. She is starting to be asked for more weekend Playdates in senior school.

it is good

I always invited more kids to come over then that my kids got invited and I didn’t have a problem with it. Just keep the doors open wide and your kids may get invited in return. It also depends on the fact if parents are working or not. I started inviting both the kids and the mums for afternoon tea, often several mums so you get to know each other and have a fun time.

Not everyone likes strangers at home or thier house is not sutable for more children. No need to keep kids in side …how about parks ect

Play dates don’t have to happen at someone’s house! Any one of the other mums could say “we are going to the park, would you like to join us?” It’s not that hard. My house is usually bigger than most so I am happy to have play dates at mine, or the play ground. Also it’s easier with my four year old as he knows exactly what he can do and play with. But I too would be sad that my kids aren’t invited. We expected it with my four year old but when he said he doesn’t have any friends and nobody likes him it did break the heart. It’s still early days and he has friends in the other class, with any luck he will eventually make proper friends in his class. My now six year old only had play dates with one friend at his age.