100% its Fair. Everyone needs to learn that in certain situations ‘Its not all about you’ … When you become a Mum your life changes and your number one job is to look after this child. You are responsiblie for another life and in caring for that child if you have to make some rules and piss people off then tough luck to them. Good on her for being a great Mum right from day one.

If you have seen whooping cough first hand you wouldn’t query this. Mums have to follow their instincts and time to see the baby later.

agree with the parents – i did the same thing with my kids. most people were cool with it and my entire family went and got the whooping cough vaccine.

I agree with the parents in this situation. They are just protecting their baby. Surely anyone who chooses not to have their vaccinations can wait a few weeks. There will be plenty of other opportunities to bond in the future.

I completely agree with the mother of the newborn in this case. It is her decision and she is only trying to protect her baby.

The parents have the right to protect their baby from getting a potentially fatal very cruel disease until old enough for vaccination. It is bad enough having a baby with severe croup – coughing continuously and having trouble breathing – at least it is not contagious. Babies don’t have a strong immune system when they are small. A lot of older people have poor immune systems too. It is inconsiderate or anybody who has not been vaccinated to have contact with babies, especially those who are too young to be vaccinated.

The point here is choice. Parents have made a choice and she is making one too.

Each person has their own point of view and I can see it from both sides.

I can understand both sides of view, but knowing that whopping cough is such a horrible thing for a little baby to have then I would be as protective of my child getting it – so I think it is fair – no one wants to be sick with a new born baby nor do they want that new born getting sick – I don’t think it’s too much to ask if your sick to not visit (really to me that is just common sense!) – with regards to the no vax no visit this seems to be the norm now for our society!

I can understand both sides.
Hope this mum still gets visitors.

100% on mums side here. Babies have DIED recently from both whooping cough and the flu. If you care in the slightest about your niece thrn you wouldn’t even think about it. You’d just do it. You just have to look at how common vaccine preventable diseases are at the moment (can anyone say measles?) to know we don’t have the herd immunity that babies and other immunocompromised people need. Babies get SOME protection from their mother. But its certainly no guarantee of immunity to anything.
Get your damn needles and stfu.

I think the parents have every right
And I believe the SIL is over reactingif you want to see the baby, have the vaccines simple

It’s fine though fairly harsh to deal with I’m sure if the parents think it’s good to do this then it’s their responsibility

Clearly, this is a new thing. I understand it, but I don’t fully agree with it. But, as parents, they can manage this the way they see fit.

Really it is up to the parents what rules are in play. It is their baby and they need to think about her before others thoughts. Yes it is hard not being able to see the child, maybe ask for some photos. Not the same but at least you know what she looks like.

Your SIL is trying to protect her baby until she has had her immunisations. I don’t think she is being unreasonable about not letting anyone see the baby until that time. If you are that desperate to have a cuddle then have the flu shot, otherwise wait until the six weeks are up.

Well respect your sil, honestly to many bugs around for people that down right refuse to vaccinate to be around new borns, respect the new mum and her baby and either get the jab or move on

Hmmmm I could go either way with this.
I definitely support the whooping cough vaccine.
As for the flu vaccine. I’m not sure.
But end of the day, it’s their baby, their rules. Sorry but she’s going to have to wait to cuddle the baby.
Face time or something to make the cousins happy and explain to them how fragile newborns immunities are

it is their home, their baby and their rules.

Definitely agree with the whooping cough vax, it’s a dreadful disease that bubs shouldn’t be put at risk for. I wouldn’t have thought the flu vax would have come into it but it’s the parent’s choice, their bub is ultra precious and someone’s hurt feelings don’t even come a close 2nd. I have good friends that hibernated for the first 6 weeks, they weren’t risking anything!