I am in the first year of a new relationship after being out of the game for many years. This man is wonderful and makes me feel like im so very precious. At the moment the romance is not an issue and to be honest I cant imagine it ever will be with this guy

Totally get the tired thing. Hubby is a shift worker so his schedule is all over the place. He’s awake at night and asleep during the day or in bed by 8pm to get up at 5am and gets home at 4pm etc. but we make it work.
We send I miss you texts to each other during the day and sometimes some cheeky pics at night.

Agree with some others we are both too tired, too much effort these days especially because the kids are older and go to bed later not easy to squeeze it in while they are asleep unless we wake eacother up in the middle of the night and we both love our sleep too much but we are not fussed!

As soon as we got home we’d talk about our day at work and listened to each other. We would always let the other know we loved them and never went to bed angry. That worked for us for 47 years until he passed away from cancer. I now look out the window at night, pick the brightest star and tell him of my day and how much I love and miss him.

Time. Listening. Talking. Doing things together. Doing things apart.

I agree.Quality time and self love is important to keep romance going on relationship.

Sometimes I think it can be hard when you’re both too tired to do anything on date night though!!

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  • • mom169700 replied
    • 13 Feb 2021 , 6:59 pm

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  It doesn’t have to two people – it can be one person who’s too tired.

It sure is a balancing act, even after the kids have left home. I like the element of surprise, expect the unexpected with me

Totally agree on self love! Love your self before you try to love someone else. But also, monthly date nights are a must for us

I agree that you need to love yourself before you can truly love someone else. However the love and adoration of someone else also can inspire and teach you to love yourself.

These are some really good tips. I always forget about self love and self happiness in to busy worrying about everyone else. We havnt been on a date night in a few months I think we need to organise one asap

Great tips and a good reminder about self love

Thank you for the tips.
For me my hobby works a lot so to show my appreciation I’ll give him a massage with an essential oil to get him to relax and ease the tension of having to work so much.

I like the last tip, not to put too much pressure on yourself.

I notice its getting more and more difficult to show affection

Some great reminders here. We try to do thoughtful things other than sex. Massages, buying little gifts, lots of hugs, watching a movie together. It’s important to talk regularly too

The little things go such a long way when you have a busy life

Life is so busy that’s it’s hard to make time for each other sometimes.

Making time for each other and appreciating what we have is special is very important.

So true that giving is receiving. I think more important then romance and sex is: respect, friendship, humor, physical affection, warmth and deep love.