It’s your body so you should be able to birth the baby how you want if you can.

Perhaps if he discussed what he is advocating with a doctor, [your GP or gyno] then he might learn something and find out that what he is suggesting is possibly a last resort with the doctor in charge.
As for the silent treatment, he is a grown adult I presume, because he is acting like a spoiled child. Good luck with all your inevitable problems bringing up the baby. Cheers

You are not being selfish, far from it. It’s your body and only you can know how you feel inside. Make him realise if he ever has a baby he can decide the birthing procedure. Maybe he doesn’t like the thought of you being in pain but, right now, he is the pain. I hope he comes to understand this and the rest of your waiting is peaceful.

Are you sure your husband is the father of the child

No not selfish at all. It’s fine for your husband to have suggestions but ultimately it’s about what’s best for you and of course the baby and he needs to support you on that.

It’s fine for husband to have his opinion and to express it, the baby is 50% his indeed. However it’s her body and her choice, decisions about medical interventions are to be made by herself in the end together with her medical team (unless she’s not capable of making decisions)

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  • • mom160270 replied
    • 19 Jan 2024 , 1:57 pm

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  Yes, I agree. Well said.

Definitely Mum’s ultimate choice; she will bear the physical consequences.

Pregnancy is definitely about you. Birth is your decision, unless it affects the baby, i.e., should we induce? However Pitocin is very painful and c sections are so much more dangerous for both Mum and bub – and he has no reason to suggest them. He is also not a doctor so demanding an irrelevant procedure that statistically is more likely to lead to mother or infant death is horrible. Good luck talking to him.

Yes, they are both parents, but he needs to realise that it’s her body and she has the control there.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 19 Jan 2024 , 5:06 am

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  Women should always be in control of their own bodies and own choices and they should never ever be coerced into doing anything that simply feels wrong to them in any way.

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    • • Ellen replied
      • 21 Jan 2024 , 8:54 am

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    I was thinking that in some cultures the behaviour of this husband may be totally normal and acceptable.

Oh wow i feel for this mumma, it can’t be a nice situation to be in. The husband has a right to voice his opinion but in the end the lady has the right to decide what is best for her as it is her body.

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  • • mom160270 replied
    • 18 Jan 2024 , 7:42 pm

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  I agree with your comment. Very well said.

He has an opinion and can express it in a calm, positive and respectful manner. Personally I agree with this mum, he shouldn’t have a say in how she gives birth and the decision on medical intervention.

He is 50% of the baby, but its your body. Honestly, while it’s happening, the staff talk you through each stage, get your opinion and thoughts on how to go forward. But if things start going AWOL, the medical people will do whatever needs doing. Any plans you make……it’ll be unusual if you get to stick to it, giving birth doesn’t follow any rules

His obviously entitled to his own opinion, don’t take it to heart nor do you have to do it. At the end of the day it is the woman’s body and the woman’s choice if she is sound to do so.

That kind of behaviour from hubby is rather childish and just not okay. He needs to take a step back and look at himself!

A woman’s body is her own and absolutely no one is entitled to tell her what to do with it in this situation; even when medical intervention is required it is discussed in a mature manner. The lack of disrespect and the silent treatment is unacceptable. A partners role is to be the best support person they can be for mum and baby. The priority is a healthy mum and baby and stress can be terrible for health and wellbeing. The partners opinions of course should be heard and communicated but ultimately a woman’s body is exactly that; her body and her choice.

Oh boy, I don’t envy this mumma. I hope this is just pre baby nerves coming out of the husband in the worst way, otherwise he’s obviously fallen head first and is still concussed to think he can call the shots during a woman’s medical appointment. He can have opinions, but to be rude and pouty she isn’t letting him plan out the delivery is gross behaviour.

Until the baby is out the birth of the baby is being done by your body and you live with any impacts it has to you. He has no say as a birth is not done by the baby it is done by you. If he has different opinions you may want someone else in the delivery room to advocate your preferences, even though the nurses should being going by what you say first. As for the other birth items (cutting the cord, changing first nappy and baby name) these should all be discussed with him as these involve the baby, maybe ask him about these and explain how important they are so he can feel included.

Yes, it takes 2 to make a baby. Yes, he advocate as needed but how you want your birth plan is according to your needs. Explain and have his opinion/input but you have the last say. That’s my opinion.

He’s entitled to an opinion – and to voice it to her – but the ultimate decisions are hers. Because she’s right, it’s a medical procedure.

It’s your body and health so ultimately your decision. I suppose he just wants to be included so a biger discussion is needed.

I guess it’s fine that he wants to express his opinion, but ultimately not his decision