Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I agree a calm approach is the best way but sometimes it is hard. I just have to remind myself!

Wow.. Love that last paragraph.. I keep telling myself to stop yelling!

It’s so very true!

you said that kids test our nerves which is a really common statement that i hear from people. think of it differently……do they really test our nerves or have we conformed as we grew older. kids always laugh the loudest and the most genuine….while we have many faces that we have to put on to please others

I thinks its also important to praise them when they are doing something good.

I’m all for time outs: every family and child will react differently!

Great article.
The photo really impressed me too. The girl is wearing sunglasses to protect her eyes, not just the Mum.

If only we could get it right and have peace all the time

my sister is a bad mum gone good and I am very proud of her

This was great but I was expecting ways to aid in positive parenting but their wasn’t any ?

i have my child make huge messes when i have my back turned (i.e on the toilet, shower) but i think that is what kids do. so i try to get them to help like passing me washing to hang out or getting them to pick up toys with me. i also give myself a minute to think about the situation before i react. i could be sooo exhausted and have my child pull his toybox over after i have just cleaned up the loungeroom so i don’t clean up until they are in bed. a lot of planning helps and reminding myself that he is just exploring and learning.

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  You are right! they are exploring and learning; good point!

Thank you for your views, they may not be the views of all but still worth reading.

Great tips to work on great little minds!!

Thanks for sharing this article; am somewhat confused about ‘pure morality’? Children are not born with morality and values; it is taught by parents. Children’s brains have not fully developed and therefore their reasoning can be irrational and parents do need to have strict guidelines and boundaries. Parents need to be parents and not mentors or friends.

So inFormative thank you for sharing

Someone without kids should not comment on raising them. You have no idea until you are living it.

Hi STEPMOM107932,
It is not yelling our only flaw, keeping us frustrated is children’s way of exploration. They explore our behavior in non-standard situations such as the ones which get us out of control. Of course, they are not always testing us unintentionally, sometimes, they make bad things because they don’t know the rules, they do them out of boredom or because they dislike something or someone.

Still, it is not necessary to yell. Go the other side – cry! Be sad, reject your child ( don’t hurt it ), but show your little one you’re truly hurt by their bad behavior. They will react to this much strongly than they will react to yelling. For example, if you do something really special for your child, like shape its breakfast like a smiley face every morning – stop doing it!
It is the golden ratio, we are trying to achieve and it is quite hard to explain – you’d need to feel it yourself. My grandmother would always tell me to follow my heart and this is exactly what we parents need to do in such situations.

To be perfectly honest your point wasn’t very clear. Are you saying never yell at your children?
Or something else?
this article seemed to contradict itself.

I see this with not myself, but my partner. My son feels if my partner is allowed to yell and carry on slamming doors etc, then why can’t he?
It’s very frustrating. :/