This is really beautiful and raw, and something that I very unfortunately can relate to. Losing your mum is one of the hardest things to experience. Harder now I have my own baby, and thinking if the world just gave her 5 more years she could have seen this part of my life.
It looks like he’ll have her blue eyes. Husband and I both have brown. That hit my emotions hard.
Like you, I hold on to the positive, loving memories and look forward to sharing those with my son. My mum made the most simple things fun and we always felt her love, I hope I can pass on the same spirit.

I love the little one line saying at the end of this. I agree and I often tell friends when they cry that they can’t afford the latest whatever for their kids. When they’re grown up, they won’t remember things, they’ll remember you! So give them some amazing memories

I have been thinking about this very thing a lot lately. I completely agree with you. Great words of wisdom, thank you.

I loved your story, and it is great that you shared your sadness with us (that is a healing thing in itself) one of the saddest thing is that most of us realise what you did when its too late and we are faced with the situation of losing someone. Time is something that we never have enough of no matter what or how much time we spend with these special people, On thing I truly believe is that you get what you give when it comes to your children. If you spend quality, loving, sharing time with them from when they first arrive, they will have more time for visiting you when they leave home to start their own nest. Parents all have to work, or return to work after having children, but dont do this too soon, treasure the small, innocent, impressionable little life you have created, whether with your partner or not, this little human needs to learn and watch its real family even if only 6 months old. Dont let your child learn from a person who gets paid to look after lots of others children in a crowded or not centre. They are great, wonderful, patient, loving people, (My daughter is one), but your creation needs to be with you. If you are not prepared to be there for them, and do not realise the responsibility required to raise your own little darling, wait until you do. These years are the most amazing and rewarding years of your life and will be in your and your childs hearts forever, and forever is plenty of time.

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  yes thanks for sharing this amazing personal experience. cheers Milena

Thank You everyone for your beautiful words! It’s amazing to get all of your feedback.

I am at work reading this and it was a massive struggle to keep the tears at bay. This hit me right in the feels. I sometimes worry that my sons father is going to end up with these feelings at the end of his life. I try my hardest to make sure he spends cherished time with our son and not get too stressed about the little things, he is getting better, I still worry though.

Time is very special, we do need to take a moment and think about what is important

Thank you for sharing and touching people with your thoughtful story.

Being present is so important is so many areas of our lives and especially for our children, they rely on us for this, I totally agree the idea of investing your time is essential.

Such a beautiful and well written article. So very true. Time is precious and something that passes all too quickly. Thank you.

I am literally in tears x

what a beautiful article
thank you for posting that for the mums

Thank you Milena, awesome message. I have moments in the afternoons when my 2 year old is following me around the house whilst I try to clean/cook/fold washing/tidy…….. I keep tripping over her and keep saying “you have so many toys…….why don’t you just play with your toys…..” My household chores still need to get done but I really must try to stop and pay attention to this little “helper” who just wants mum.

My ugly childhood has haunted me to date in my adult years. I feel though, that as a parent now, my often brutal, physically and emotionally cruel upbringing by my Mother, has helped shape me into the wonderful kind, gentle, patient, loving and considerate Mother that I am today to my young daughter. I did not follow in my Mother’s cruel footsteps, instead, I became the opposite as a person and a Mother. I give everything to my daughter that I was not given by my Mother, including time, patience, love, a feeling of safety instead of fear, and tenderness instead of cruelty and violence. Even though I suffer severe major depression as a result of my Mother’s cruelty, it has shaped me into the kind and loving Mother I am today to my own daughter. And even though my past still haunts me, I am so greatful that I did not follow in her footsteps, and it was all worth it if that is why I turned out to be the kind, gentle and loving Mother I am today to my wonderful and beautiful little girl that I am so lucky to have.

Thank you for sharing. I agree that sharing your time is so important. When my son asks for my time, I make a point of stopping and giving it to him. Quite often it might only be a minute or two… not too much to ask. Even when I’m busy, I stop and think that it’s really important to acknowledge what he wants. I’m hopeful my son will grow up with great memories of the times we have spent together as a family.

A moving piece but oh so true.

I hope my kids remember their childhood with fondness.

Sorry for your loss.

I wholeheartedly agree with your points. Time together is so valuable.

My husband worries that people think because he can’t work that he is less of a man, but myself and children love the fact we get to spend so much time with him. We are poor in money terms, but rich in the love he shows his family.

Our condolences go out to you at this hard time and we appreciate how hard it must have been to write the article. But you are right enjoy the moments in life as thats what makes memories and being there to share laughter, fun times together.

Sincere condolences to you Milena. Thank you so much for your heartfelt and helpful story.
I am picturing you as a wonderful and very caring mum. Love to you and your family.