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A couple, who managed to keep the birth of their baby secret from their entire family during the pandemic, has had their big reveal ruined.

After falling pregnant during lockdown, the husband and wife decided to keep their pregnancy under wraps. Their hope was to surprise everyone after the birth, once lockdowns had lifted.

“It was mainly because my wife didn’t want to ‘jinx’ it as she does have some issues that could possibly lead to a miscarriage or even still birth,” the new dad explained on reddit. “And being my father’s son I am big on long planned surprises.”

The time had finally come to introduce the little girl to the family, and the timing couldn’t have been more perfect. “I realised that my mum’s birthday was in a few weeks and she absolutely adores babies and has often told us that she can’t wait for my brother and I to give her grand children.

“Since the restrictions were picking up and everyone was vaccinated and socially distanced/working from home, we volunteered to have the party in our backyard. We only invited our immediate family and my in-laws.”

‘Surprise, we had a baby!’

Everything went swimmingly, the new dad explained. The guests had gathered in the backyard, and the couple had their baby daughter hidden away in the house.

“My wife and I were able to go inside and check on our daughter frequently since we were playing hosts, and use the phone monitor to keep and eye on things. Finally came the time for gifts, we went last out of courtesy and gave my mum a funny grandma t-shirt. Everyone was so excited that we were going to have a baby and while my wife was being congratulated I snuck upstairs to get her.”

“So when my wife asked my mum how excited she was, my mum said she can’t wait and, well I couldn’t have gotten a better cue. So I made my entrance showcasing our daughter telling her she doesn’t have to wait. This is where the room basically got divided. My parents and father-in-law were over the moon. My brother was pretty happy but my sister in law (brother’s wife) and my mother-in-law were visibly not happy.

“While my mum basically took our daughter and refused to let others even see her properly, both women came to us and told us how it was wrong of us to hide the baby and the pregnancy. My SIL basically told us how we were bad people to make mum’s birthday all about us and our baby and how it just upstaged everyone’s gifts and efforts.

“My MIL was upset because she wanted to do certain traditions with my wife during her pregnancy which she wouldn’t get to do now. My wife and I tried to explain our reasonings and even told my MIL that we may have another child in a few years if we decide to have three.

“After the party, my mum texted me that it was the best gift ever and we announced it officially and again got a mixed response with some friends calling my crazy (in a good way) for being able to keep this a secret .(I’ve had baby fever since 19). While some were offended that we didn’t trust them enough to disclose this. A few of my wife’s friends were upset because they didn’t get the opportunity to throw a baby shower and other stuff. Although my wife and I don’t think we did anything wrong, the mixed response has gotten us worried that we may have ruffled a few feathers unnecessarily.”

Do you think it was a beautiful surprise? Or should the couple have revealed their baby at another time? Let us know in the comments.

  • Mmmm, I’m in two minds about this ….. family and friends love to share the good and bad times and quite rightly so but, it is the parents choice when all is said and done. I think sharing the ‘pregnancy’ on the occasion would have been lovely but to produce the actual child when no-one knew would have been a great shock ….. parents and bub are fine and, really, that’s all that matters.

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  • I think it’s their choice & I do understand during the lock down the risk for the pregnancy could have been an issue. I can also understand how her mother may have felt because the excitement of sharing your daughters pregnancy is a special time for mother & daughter too!

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  • I totally understand that. None of my extended family saw me until I was 7 months pregnant thanks to covid. I did tell them though.

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  • It must have been a great surprise ! And by the sound of it it was received well by the majority of the family, only MIL and SIL were upset. These things happen, you can’t please everyone


    • After several miscarriages, we kept the pregnancy from our eldest quite long for ourselves. I think I was about 256wks pregnant when we shared and then she came 10wks early, so our family knew about our pregnancy for a month before she was born. Same with our wedding, we married with just the two of us in the States. Both my husband and myself didn’t want to have a big fanfare wedding, we still did a celebration for family and friends after we returned from honeymoon. My family was a bit upset about this. But in the end of the day we’re all different and see things from a different angle and that’s ok.



      • Correction, I was not 256 weeks pregnant when we shared, lol !! 26 wks it was 😀

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  • I think this is amazing, well done for being actually able to keep it a secret!

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  • Theyre the parents. Their choice.
    If she had history of complications then it’s totally understandable that she kept her pregnancy private. And what an amazing suprise. Can’t family just out their own shit aside and be happy for the couple? Seriously. Trying to make it about them……

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  • Wow the comments. They are the parents and it is their every right to disclose it how they want. A baby is a blessing above everything else. So I’d be ecstatic for them either way

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  • Some of the comments and responses are heart breaking.
    Its okay to feel hurt that you were not included in sharing the joy and celebrating along the way BUT remember – it was THEIR pregnancy and THEIR life to share (or in this case not to). The mumma clearly has issues with pregnancy and wanted to be cautious.
    The SIL needs to get over it. You’re upset because all eyes were on baby / announcement then what your gift ? Sorry but grow up- very petty. The Mum / Gran was over the moon.
    Just be happy for them <3
    Congrats fam !

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  • I think it’s a lovely surprise, and clearly the birthday girl wasn’t upset, so that’s okay. But I do think they should recognise that some of the disappointment and upset comes from people who wanted to shard special moments – traditions, baby showers etc with them. I would have loved to have people wanting to offer me that support… But it comes down to them and what they wanted, really. Their pregnancy, their baby, their announcement.

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  • I think it’s selfish and rude to not tell immediate family and exclude them from the pregnancy and birth. I can understand they’d feel very left out cause they were. Family should be a part of your life for love and support. Not excluded from important things then them to get brought up on a totally different event is plain strange and attention seeking.

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  • There’s always going to be someone with a negative comment wherever you go and you can’t help it.
    I don’t think anyone would have known I was pregnant either if I hadn’t told them as I was pregnant during all of lockdown and everything was virtual so you could only see my face.

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  • There are always going to be a small few that react negatively to any situation.

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  • I think it was wonderful news and should have been viewed that way. I can understand their reasons for what they did and it’s no biggie. If it were my daughter I would understand given the circumstances of what has been taking place. I would be so thrilled just to be a grandmother. I think those who have opposed them asr the selfish ones. Good for them for keeping such a tight secret. Well done and congratulations to both of you on the birth of your baby girl.

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  • The sheer self control of this! That’s amazing enough!

    I can appreciate the disappointment I’m not being able to share your friend/relatives pregnancy journey but these are strange times.

    I support the decision any parents to be make with regard to the safety of their family and although this wasn’t just about safety for them, it’s no one else’s business how or why they did this.

    I hardly feel they were selfish for sharing this amazing news at the family birthday celebration.

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  • Pretty amazing they kept it a secret for as long as they did.
    I don’t think it was attention seeking behaviour or selfish. I think they just thought it would be a nice way to surprise everyone post lockdown. And it doesn’t appear the birthday girl was offended, but quite the opposite.

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  • My cousin did that she hid her whole pregnancy away from people and almost everyone was so excited for her, I was so surprised as we had our babies 1 week apart. Each to their own.

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  • Each to their own

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  • I like the idea and definitely was a big suprice and keeping a big secret during lockdown probably wasn’t a big issue ????

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  • I couldn’t have kept it a secret for so long, I was too excited to be pregnant

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