Don't feel guilty about all screentime

One kid is on their computer in their bedroom and the other one is in the lounge on the iPad. Sound like a standard weekday afternoon?

The school pick-up is done and dusted and the pantry has been raided. It is now homework or playtime depending on the age of the child.

Many parents at this point have a recurrent guilty feeling – “They should be outside, not glued to their screens”. But the feeling is pushed away because no one is fighting, no one is crying, and no one is getting under their feet.

It’s really not that uncommon for kids in modern households to be using their playtime on their devices and connected online.

The average 8-year-old is engaging in various forms of ‘screen time’ for eight hours a day, and teens are commonly spending more than eleven hours of screen time daily.

The reality is that technology has claimed a permanent position in our everyday lives, and this includes our kid’s playtime too. But, of course there needs to be a balance in the way they are using their devices. If it interferes with their learning, sleeping or exercise, than this is an overuse that needs to be carefully managed.

Recent studies have stipulated that children should be getting zero screen time when they are under the age of two. The recommendation for older children is that they have no more than two hours of daily screen time. This includes all of their entertainment and educational viewing across TV, Internet and various smart devices.

Most kids are more than likely consuming more screen time than is deemed healthy for them, but this isn’t always problematic.

It’s about balance, and being realistic. And the reality is we can’t meet the recommended guidelines all the time.

We’re juggling so many balls as parents that sometimes we let some things slide for the sake of our sanity and a happy household

Check out this list of ways our kids having screen time and exploring the online world through their devices can potentially help their development:

Pre-schoolers

Fine-motor development. For toddlers and pre-schoolers, working their fingers on a touch screen, and holding a mouse exercises their hand-eye coordination and improves fine-motor movements, much like finger-painting and doodling can.
Learning cause & effect. Young children love playing with things that they can manipulate, and learning how they can interact with them. Being able to click or tap on an interactive screen and be rewarded with fun sound effects and visual displays is an exciting process for little minds.
A teaching aid. Learning simple number and letter recognition, and identifying basic shapes and colours can all be reinforced through interactive apps and websites. This builds confidence and lays a foundation for future learning.

Primary school children

Problem solving. Interactive games and websites can help children develop important problem solving skills and to learn to think strategically.
Improved literacy. By children regularly writing, reading and engaging with computers and other electronic devices this helps boost and reinforce their basic literacy skills. These skills can then be applied to their daily and school life.
Encourages reading. As children watch and enjoy popular TV shows and films during their screen time, they can become encouraged to read the books that inspired the TV series and movies, like Harry Pottery or Hunger Games.

High school children

A creative outlet. With endless online resources at their fingertips, teens are able to harness the Internet to express their creativity. They can create and publish their own profiles, films, animations, memes, books, blogs and Wikis to express their personalities and their passions.
An information resource. TV and the Internet provide up-to-the-minute news and analysis on current events. Being informed about these topical issues helps to develop teens’ political and social knowledge.
Social networking. Being a teenager can be an isolating time. But through the instant communication tools of email, instant messaging, text messages and social media, teens are able to communicate with like-minded friends, as well as keep in regular contact with their family.

How much screen time are your kids having each day? How much do you think they should be having? SHARE with us in the comments below.

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26 Comments

- - ella12 said
  - 25 Jul 2017
    2:23 pm
In moderation it is ok, there are pros and cons.

- - mom81879 said
  - 18 Nov 2015
    8:42 pm
Growing up, I changed with age. It also depends on what kind of day we were having. If it was raining or sunshine, if someone wasn’t feeling well, if I was just knackered. Lots to consider

- - e.blue said
  - 11 Jun 2015
    2:13 am
hmmm..depends on the day
great article though

- - mom111362 said
  - 12 May 2015
    10:33 pm
too much, my 3 yr old is addicted

- - mom113055 said
  - 10 May 2015
    3:29 pm
good to read

- - mom74959 said
  - 30 Apr 2015
    7:22 pm
I just have to look at how much ‘screen time’ I myself have every day.

- - smiles said
  - 29 Apr 2015
    11:08 pm
My kids don’t have any screen time at home but I do know that they do have some at school which I figure is plenty at the moment.

- - jodiev1980 said
  - 08 Apr 2015
    2:01 pm
8 hours a day? That is crazy and if it’s true then it’s horrifying!

- - mom113177 said
  - 20 Mar 2015
    10:51 pm
It can be so difficult to manage when you are so consumed with other children / errands!

- - mom82487 said
  - 15 Mar 2015
    5:18 pm
Balance is definitely the key. As long as they are doing a variety of things, including playing outside, or playing with each other, or writing and drawing (as a few examples) then screen time is valuable. I can’t quite fathom that the average 8 year old spends 8 hours a day at a screen… between school and soccer and swimming and eating and, you know, sleep, I don’t know where he could possibly fit 8 hours in front of a screen!

I’m on my phone or computer all throughout the day, because it’s just a part of the things I do. Some productive, some frivolous. It’s a bit rich of me to say ‘no screens’ from behind one…
- mom82487 replied
  
  15 Mar 2015 , 5:21 pm
  I should also add that my middle child (4) is the most drawn to screens of all types, but because of playing games on the iPad he learnt to recognise the numbers 1-9 when he was only 2, and is now on his way to reading independently thanks to Reading Eggs.
  
  Used as a tool ‘screens’ can be very beneficial.
- - deb_gs said
  - 14 Mar 2015
    9:50 pm
There is a line between using electronic devices as an educational/relaxing device and a lazy babysitter.
- mom93821 replied
  
  15 Mar 2015 , 4:32 pm
  There is a line; but unfortunately I have even seen small kids on devices and heard them being bribed to be good for screen time!
- - Lov'n'Life said
  - 14 Mar 2015
    8:13 pm
My kids do have screen time although it would not make an hour a day my kids love being out on the farm when they are not a netball training, steer leading practice or other after school commitments. Then when they come inside it is homework dinner shower and bed not much time for screen time except the homework screen time and on some weekend mornings

- - cherz said
  - 14 Mar 2015
    5:19 pm
My son works in the IT field…sooo all the time.

- - mom64736 said
  - 14 Mar 2015
    2:40 pm
Why is the concept “everything in moderation” forgotten by people?

- - pakeko said
  - 13 Mar 2015
    8:46 pm
Some great points here and I love the way you think

- - crystalangela said
  - 13 Mar 2015
    3:49 pm
My kids are both older teens and spend a lot of time on some form of computer. They use it for school work, socialising and downtime. They do also read a lot but have never been sporty so I am not too worried as long as they get out daily.

- - beksmum said
  - 13 Mar 2015
    1:45 pm
My girls can only have electronic devices after homework is finished and then only for an hour, on the weekends I am more relaxed and sometimes I think they do spend too much time on them so I just take them off them and say time for a break!

- - mom113991 said
  - 13 Mar 2015
    1:37 pm
a good point here…”If it interferes with their learning, sleeping or exercise, than this is an overuse that needs to be carefully managed.”
I think up until this point….there is no such thing as too much screen time. Technology these days is so advanced that everything we do from banking, paying bills, groceries in adults, to kids needing the internet at school and home for researching rather than books. My daughter is in prep and i was so annoyed that her school recommends they have their own individual iPads for learning and videos. I sucked it up and got her one and to my surprise her iPad is an amazing tool for all apects of her learning.

- - mom113937 said
  - 13 Mar 2015
    1:21 pm
I dont feel guilty, having an ipad has increased my daughters efforts at school and her grades and reading has improved

- - mom57522 said
  - 12 Mar 2015
    10:09 pm
iPads are usually only allowed on the weekends.