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What better place to vent than a private Facebook group where you can say what you really think and feel safe. Right? Hmmm not in this case.

A private Facebook group, Mummy Wars – Aussie Style, is sparking quite a bit of outrage among parents at the moment.

The page has over 8,000 members, but many of them have recently shared concerns about the purpose of the group. Claiming it is full of nothing but bullying and judging of others.

Althought the group description does clearly warn the intentions of the group.

THIS IS NOT A SUPPPORT GROUP!

“Mums, Dads, Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents or even if you’re trying to conceive – You’re ALL welcome! This group is designed for ranting, bitching, screaming or even just general opinions or seeking advice. Everyone has a right to an opinion and the name of the group really should explain it all. Judging is accepted here, and even encouraged. If you dont want people to judge things then do not join. You’ll be wasting everyone’s time. This is NOT a support group. We DO openly judge various things. Judgements are subjective. Remember that.

*Disclaimer: this group will give you insomnia, you won’t be able to sleep because you’ll be too busy interacting with us. Your real life friends and family will pale into insignificance and most importantly of all, your period cycle will become synced with ours.”

Some posts to the page include images of domestic violence, insults about appearances and harsh judgements about parenting styles just to name a few.

To be fair, that is precisely what the group has been set up for!

Recent comments have included…’This page is disgusting! You people aren’t mothers!’ One woman wrote on the page, before receiving a flood of defensive comments in return.

‘Why does everyone actually enjoy putting down other mothers? Like seriously, what do you get out of it?’ Another added.

‘We don’t put down just mothers we don’t discriminate if you act like an idiot we shall treat you like one,’ a member replied.

Some members of the group have jumped to its defence saying ‘If you want to live in a unrealistic world of rainbows and butterflies, it’s probably a good idea not to join the page. If you want a page that won’t piss in your pockets and will tell it how it is, join!’

The group owner spoke out on Sunday.

‘We all judge. It’s just the way the world works. There are millions of positive parenting support groups on Facebook. Millions. They’re all the same and they all share the same rules whereby you must not judge or criticize,’ she wrote.

‘Many of us don’t want to be lovey dovey all the time. They want to discuss stupid posts and idiotic parenting choices with like minded people. They want honesty without being labeled a bully [sic].’

Are the calls for the groups closure warranted? Or is it time for some members to just hit “leave group”? Share your thoughts with us below.

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  • its a closed group and if you dont want to take part then dont. its not something I would be interested in but as long as they are not doing anything illegal then leave them be.

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  • All the insecure people put together in a silly group.

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  • Sounds scary !

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  • There are so many judgemental people on Facebook (keyboard warriors) and I often wonder if they would say those things in person, somehow I doubt it :-(

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  • This group is pathetic. It’s glorifying bullying and is truely silly that these members get satisfaction putting other parents down.

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  • Not the type of group I want to invest my time and energy in, but clearly some people do….

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  • Shame on you Facebook as if you haven’t invited enough people’s privacy also I feel that everyone involved should take some responsibility it’s obviously needs to be shut down . I don’t see how it’s being productive by putting each other down and abusing each other .mums I think that’s disgusting we all have our own personal issues and I don’t think it should t on Facebook at all . DON’T people have better things to do then too attack each on social media & Facebook ?? shouldn’t have these groups at all.

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  • this is just one of the many waste of space on the internet and not even worth worrying over. people will always have negative opinions. I choose to ignore and avoid

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  • Not at all interested in this stuff!

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  • Facebook – Never have looked into it, never will.

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  • well they did read the name of the group that they willing joined? maybe they were just invited and blindly accepted? Let’s not judge….lol

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  • I think that they adequately summed up the purpose of the group in its description. They were very direct! If you join this group and then get offended, it’s your own fault.

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  • I think people should just maybe leave the group. I was not aware of them prior to this latest issue, and I’m not interested in being involved in their group.

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  • This is everything that is wrong with social media and we we expect our children to make better choices?? I think anything that cuts others down is harmful, private or otherwise and cannot understand the mentality of someone who would want to encourage it and why?
    Life is so awesome without Facebook, I promise you all that.

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  • You know: some mothers do have them.
    It is always wise to first understand what it is, and then decide what you want to do.
    Such group is definitely not my cup of tea.

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  • I knew there was a reason why I don’t do social media. This is it. I am not so capable that I could cope with bad blogs, so I don’t do it.
    I also don’t have the time to be committed to it – how do the Moms on here have that much time?
    You have to look after children, your husband, your workplace, the house, the garden, etc.
    Then your parents get sick and then you have to mind the grandchildren – no time for Facebook in my life. And I don’t miss it one bit.

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  • There are many groups I would not join, just as there are books I would not read, or tv shows I do not watch. Each of us has a choice as to whether we want to participate in something or not. If a group is not breaking the law, they should be allowed to exist for those who do want to participate. Those who find the group abhorrent should leave.

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  • Whilst I find online bullying absolutely abhorrent, and some of the disgusting group dynamics that come into play when people are indulging in online bullying can be quite dangerous to the psyche of someone suffering from depression etc, I do think that the if an individual didn’t like the group, then perhaps they shouldn’t join. I do feel in some senses that political correctness has gone way too far, but I haven’t been on this site to know if it’s too far to the other extreme for my liking. What I have learnt is, rather than making judgments based on someone else’s perception, be it the media or otherwise, you are best to garner the information from your own experience and find out for yourself. There are strict criterion on FB that a page operates under, and if it is found to breach those via reporting, then the page can be taken down. I can’t say one way or the other whether I think it should be closed, as I haven’t personally visited it in order to ascertain whether it breaches FB protocols

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  • The disclaimer clearly states what the web site is about if you don’t like the content why join there is to much political correctness in the world today

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  • If you don’t like it leave the group. It doesn’t sound like the sort of group that I would really enjoy being a part of, but each to their own, I am certainly not going to judge the ones who do want to be a part of it.

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