Ridiculous over reaction from her aunt. The only thing I found weird is why ask for things that are geared towards boys. As in, if you want gender neutrality or not to pressure your daughter to be into “girl colours and toys/gender roles” then why ask for the opposite. What’s your fav colour? Ask for clothes in that colour. Or I guess yellow is meant to be a neutral one.
But the aunts reaction is way over the top. And the ridiculousness about a baby being swayed to be trans. It’s a baby. They don’t know anything yet. Just go with what they are attracted to. End of story.

Some people just don’t have any common sense anymore. Everything is an issue these days

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  • • mom466087 replied
    • 02 Jun 2022 , 4:17 pm

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  Spot on!

This is ridiculous and people have gone mad. You can’t make your child trans, they are born that way. And wanting your child to not have all blue or all pink, is fantastic. It is up to the parents on what they want to do. However, I don’t think you can ask for gifts that are gender neutral. I do think that’s a bit presumptuous. If people are buying you all pink things, then combat that by what you buy your child or what you have them wear or play with.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 05 Jun 2022 , 4:10 am

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  True ! And personally I think as well that it’s just a gift. Receive it with a smile, see the good intentions behind it and put it aside when you don’t like it. Really, it’s not worth a fight.

In all honesty she doesn’t need to raise her child in a radical way just because of her strict upbringing. There’s such a thing as a happy medium. I make both of my kids do chores and treat them equally. But I dress them as a girl and a boy. We are going to have a generation of extremely confused individuals if we continue down this track. Let the child choose. If as they get older they don’t want to wear pink that’s fine. Let them choose their toys and clothes then.

My son dressed up like a girl and wore necklaces, I picked a pink jumper and desired a doll and doll pram for his birthday and so he received that. I didn’t like all the pink clothing for my daughter and she wore often blue. There are people who associate blue for boys and once I got asked if my girl who was wearing a denim wee dress, was a boy. I just had a big laugh. I’m all for giving our kids freedom of choices, but don’t feel I have to make a big deal or argument about it and don’t have to share my ideas around. Simply do what you believe in and don’t get directly offended when people believe different..

Kids need variety and will just gravitate towards the things they prefer. The Aunt should’ve kept her opinion to herself.

Not an arsehole at all, girls don’t just need a doll qnd everything pink, just like boys don’t need everything blue,

Honestly.. it’s not a big deal in my opinion..

Not the Asshole in this situation! Good work for standing up for your daughter! She’d have a heart attack if she seen what my son played with haha he has toys from bikes to dollys in dresses to kitchens and cleaning stuff. He’s the most rough and tumble little boy there is but when he plays with his dolls he’s the most gentle little guy. He also absolutely loves having tea party’s and playing with mud. I literally do not care if he wants to play with whatever toy, his favourite colour is whatever colour he wants and one day if he tells me he’s been assigned the wrong gender at birth then I will ensure that the right one is assigned later on. People are so stuck in boy is boy and girl is girl and it’s so not ok.

I think it’s always good to apologise …..for shouting etc. not necessarily for the sentiment behind it.

such an awful attitude for them to have! I would be upset if this was my family saying things like this

One less family member to talk to!
The aunt is way over the top! I was born and grew up in the 80s. My brother is a year older than me. Guess what? We shared toys! Yes, even back then, I played with cars and trucks in the mud and sticks were weapons. My brother would play barbies with me from time to time. We both grew up just fine. And whilst neither one of us is trans, it wouldn’t matter if we were. My kids have been sharing their “gender specific toys and clothes” because they serve a purpose, not to identify gender but to entertain, make happy, keep warm and cover up the parts of our bodies that need covering when in public.
If an apology is made in this situation, it should definitely be from the aunt!

Look when I was little I played with everything. I had a 2 younger brothers and a younger sister and we all played with each other’s toys and even wore each other’s clothes and nobody cared or even noticed. It doesn’t really matter what the kid wants to play with or wear we have been doing it forever it’s just that todays society wants to point it out, emphasise it and put a name to it “gender neutral”. I say stop the nonsense and let kids be kids!!! And be adults sit down and talk it over. Your family and try to figure it out and eventually both will apologise.

I have 2 grandchildren, 1 boy 1 girl. I have a box full of toys that they love to play with. They both play with dolls and trucks. It doesn’t really matter what they play with… as long as they are happy. I think that both parties could have handled the situation better. Maybe at a later date. Not when others are present. It sounds like they both embarrassed themselves in front of others.

I’m all with that mum. The aunt should apologise for being so old school and not letting her be whatever she decides

Anything and everything we do these days is criticised. Surround yourself with the people who give you happiness whether they are family or not.

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  • • Mum2archer replied
    • 01 Jun 2022 , 10:10 pm

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  This is the best advice! I love it, it’s so true

It’s ridiculous behaviour that the world we live in has caused humans to be like this. There’s so many colours for girls, why didn’t she just ask for a variety of colours in their gift choices like rainbow etc. It didn’t need to swing completely over a boy gift for choice.

I had 2 sons then 2 daughters. There all 4 very different personalties and although my daughters are all woman they never liked dolls and refuse to wear dresses. I think being gender neutral allows your children to develop in their own way and even if i disagreed with the mother in this case, which i don’t, it is her child and her right to bring that child up the way she thinks fit, within reason of course. So the aunt should apologise for overstepping the mark.

You can’t make anyone trans… Gee…

Kids can play with whatever they want.
My little boy plays with my daughter’s baby dolls as he sees her playing with them so wants to copy the parent role.
But if he is given a choice as to what toy to buy him at the shops he will always go for a truck or car.
I appreciate everything people give me as really, they don’t have to give me anything at all!