Id love an update and to hear what you decided.
Im glad i had 3. I had 3 girls and it worked out wonderfully. I wish i had been able to have a fourth but unlike you I had no doubts about a third.

I would sit down and have a chat with your husband and see what you both want and go from there

This needs to be more about what you and your husband want and feel you can cope with than what your children want. They’ll have their turn! Having a child affects your entire life and family, so you need to be absolutely on board.

I wouldn’t be having another child unless it was your own idea and your hisband was supportive. The idea coming from your child just doesn’t work for me as you have to put in the hard yards, not your daughter.

What does your other half think or feel about this?
Have you thought about your work and financial situation as well?

I was in a very similar situation to you.
I had my first child 2 children very young and my next 2 in my early 30’s. My older children are 5 years apart also and were 9 and 14 when I had my next baby.
My choice to have another child was because I was in my second marriage and although we were talking about having another child, I fell pregnant unplanned but I planned my fourth child 2 years after. Although we were all set in our routines a baby definitely disrupted these but we just developed a new routine. I struggled with everything for about a month or so but life is easier now with online shopping and the internet. When I had my fourth baby I didn’t struggle at all. Looking back now I am so happy I chose to have my 3rd and 4th children. My house would definitely be quieter and very lonely as older 2 children basically led their own lives from @15 years old and school, work and friend taking up most their time and only ever came home to eat or sleep as teenagers and young adults do. My older 2 children are 24 and 29 this year and they don’t have children of their own yet and although we are a very close family it is hard for us to get together as a family but we always get together for lunch or dinner once or twice a month as a whole family. If me and my husband need to go away on our own (very rare) I have 2 baby sitters and if they complain I just say well you will have your own family soon and will need me to baby sit too.
Ultimately the choice is yours and your husband’s to make. Your family and lifestyle will adapt to a new baby and you may struggle at first while you adapt. All the best with your decision x

Asking a random group of strangers is nog the right place to ask. We know nothing if your situation and if you need to ask us the answer in no!

Its your decision. There is 8 years gap between me and my sister. Now we are best friends but it wasn’t so good at the begging when I was a teenager and had a tail following me ….

It’s not selfish at all! If it’s what you want go for it. I would consider an age gap that size with my kids too.

I totally understand I had 3 kids and thought we were done…..7 years later and we had 2 more as I got really clucky again, but I had to convince my husband first. It was harder on my body as I was older, but I don’t regret doing it.

Thank you all for your input and shared stories! I guess I should preface some things based on a couple of answers- I wasn’t looking for someone to make up my mind for me, although I guess at the hour I wrote it it may have read that way, I was genuinely just looking for honest opinions and similar stories! Also, I have discussed with my partner. The subject had come up a couple of years back and at the time nobody was on board with it, but it seems everyone has completely changed their mind but me, I still remain on the fence. My kids were just the ones to bring it up this time around where as last time it was actually me; and that reopened the conversation between my husband and myself.

Me and my partner are in the same boat if it happens it happens we all find a way to just make it work

It’s your choice and when it happens, you make it work!

I always thought I’d know when I was “done” but I never felt that way. We just had a third child and that’s a 5 year gap. It’s been good but hard. I’m stuck on the first line suggesting it was your child’s idea to have another child? Maybe discuss it with your partner

I think both your hesitations and your desires are valid – don’t give yourself a hard time about that. I suppose I’d say that you’d really be tied down for maybe two years – and then your oldest would be old enough to babysit reliably.

It’s do different for everyone and I think you and your partner will know what’s right for your family.

Your the one who has to really think about what you want after having children that do a lot themselves and then back to being tied down no one can make the decision for you.

I honestly feel the same. I have two, one two and the other one 4 months. I know it’s probably too early to start thinking about having another but I honestly have baby fever at the moment and just want to keep popping them out!
It’s not the best money wise but I just feel like my family isn’t complete yet.
I think you should just take the plunge, especially if you can afford to!

I have 3 but 6, 3 and 3 months. It would be easier for you in some ways as you have the help if you need it from the older 2. I suggest write a list of pros and cons and see which list is bigger.

My age gap won’t be as big, daughters are 7 and 10… but what made me take the plunge is when I spoke to my mum and she said that the feeling of regret will only fester as the years go on.
I too, had just reached the independent child stage, the girls were so easy and so was life! Will see how we go when our babe arrives in 6 weeks!!