Do you have any advice in regards to child custody?

I would like to ask a question in regards to my children. Currently there is, a family law court order in Australia in regards to my children spending time with their father. He has them (is suppossed to, every second weekend, first half of school holidays, fathers day, Christmas on alternative years and 4 hours on his and their birthdays Also he can ring them every Wednesday, which he no longer does). Recently my ex has moved down to Sydney with no warning, just a text message the day before Father’s Day saying he has moved to Sydney. I am living in QLD which is where the court order was done. I would just like to know if I went through court would I be able to go for full custody of our children as he has started to show no interest in his childrens lives. When living in QLD he often said he could not have the kids on his weekend. Apparently from what my daughter told me his GF always yelled at them and said she didn’t want the kids going there because she couldn’t control them.
Has anyone else gone through a similar thing? Would love some helpful advice on what I should do. Thanks. Do you have any advice in regards to child custody?

Posted by anon, 11/09/13

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- - Ellen said
  - 16 Apr 2021
    7:35 am
Yes, I would seek legal advice too
- - shareem said
  - 21 May 2014
    8:07 pm
I guess it is something that often happens in families, over time things change and arrangements may need to be worked out differently. It is best to talk about this with him and try to sort it out. If there are court orders these will still apply, even if your situation has changed. Get legal help. A family relationship centre or other dispute resolution service may be able to help you to work out a new arrangement.
- - emily_zilm said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    1:34 pm
Goodluck with this, I hope it turned out okay.
- - mummy liana said
  - 27 Mar 2014
    10:47 pm
there are some good comments here
- - ljsalomon said
  - 24 Jan 2014
    4:11 pm
Did any of the advice help?
- - tobysmummy said
  - 08 Jan 2014
    11:15 am
I think the best bet would be to talk to your lawyer. They’d have the bet advice
- - coppin85 said
  - 30 Dec 2013
    7:31 pm
I hope it goes well
- - kathryn said
  - 29 Dec 2013
    11:57 am
Maybe talk to your lawyer to see what they think. I would have thought that the fact he moved to Sydney would work against him anyway.
- - ljsalomon said
  - 28 Dec 2013
    7:50 pm
I hope it all works out for you
- - mggarner said
  - 21 Nov 2013
    12:55 pm
I hope you sort out something
- - snoopy said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    5:31 pm
This is never an easy process when it comes to child custody. Best of luck.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    9:41 am
Good luck – I hope you were able to use some of the advice below.
- - nswelise said
  - 27 Oct 2013
    5:52 pm
good luck with everything thanks
- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 24 Oct 2013
    11:04 pm
Yes from personal experience keep copies of everything no matter how small.
- - niccilee said
  - 18 Oct 2013
    12:47 pm
keep a log about all conversation that you have keep all email text ect your ex can not take take your child out of the state without your permission as the court oreder was done in queensland an if the girlfriend is alway yelling at them then you have a good chance of full custody the courts see that as mental abuse but remember keep a log/if you can record conversations even better
- - rocky1991 said
  - 15 Oct 2013
    5:37 pm
Keep a copy of EVERYTHING. text messages, letters, emails etc. then speak to your solicitor, only they can really help you unfortunately.
- - kellyamy said
  - 05 Oct 2013
    1:56 pm
As everyone else said, speak with a lawyer. Its important to keep a record of all contact with the father.
- - kjgarner said
  - 30 Sep 2013
    11:03 pm
Talk with your solicitor and they can sit down with you and work things out
- - renrenrenrenee said
  - 30 Sep 2013
    2:46 pm
Please speak to a lawyer. Also dont get involved in personal matters. Of course your childrens happiness and safety is the most important but trust that their dad does love them and will keep them safe. Your kids might be telling their dad that you yell too? ?
- - chezj said
  - 29 Sep 2013
    5:42 pm
You need to speak to a Lawyer who specialises in family issues and family law – and also make sure they are able to offer advice on interstate custody issues. This sounds like an already complicated problem just getting bigger. Good luck. xo