I would love to know how you decided to handle this.

They’re the one who exclude, not you. I would just leave it, don’t spoil it for yourself or daughter, make memories with your own family.

Wow! You sound like a great mother who is charitable in all you do. Maybe you could look at this like a blessing.. you were the one to always help and put your hand up, maybe its your time to relax and focus on yourself? I mean, if things weren’t getting done then thats another story but if its really bothersome, talk to whoever is controlling things now.

This has actually happened to me when my daughter was in Year 6 and thats why when my other daughter went to Year 6 I had nothing to do with it all its really not worth it have the time

I think this is a common occurrence at schools, the clicky group who want to be seen as doing everything & taking control.
Try not to let it get you down, even though it can be tough.

I think the time has passed. Its rude on the other mum’s behalf, but its too late now, because she did everything behind your back. I’m sure the other mums and the school appreciate everything that you have done over the years. Some mums can’t or won’t help, so you daughter would feel very special that you were able to help out at school.

I would probably give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s been such a crazy horrible year, with everyone’s anxiety and stress peaking just surviving. We don’t know what is going on with others, so it’s probably nothing to do with you, but all about them. Have a wonderful y7

I don’t understand what you think is overreacting as you haven’t said how you’d handle it. Personally I’d just leave it. They’re in year 6 and likely going to a different school next year so not worth making a big deal over.

This year has been so hard for everyone. Stand tall, keep supporting your family, and be there for them.

Where I live which is a small country town and they can be quite spiteful for older women and some men as well. I stopped going to some meetings as being left out or being told they had already done it or finding out they had been all together morning tea or lunch and not asked hurts and also how they ask someone new in town is asked. So it’s not worth saying anything to them as it isn’t going to change them, so do what you want with your child and don’t offer any input to anything that way your not going to get effected by it all and find someone who isn’t in that group.

Yes there is always this problem this is why in the beginning did help at the kids primary school but I only lasted a week doing this as I found that I was not excepted into there little group

I’m sorry you have been left in the dark, sadly there is always that clicky group of women that exclude others in most schools. Just make it special for your daughter & maybe do a special farewell party for her with her friends at a later date.

Oh wow, I just don’t know how to respond, I’m lost for words

You are probably not overreacting but just let it go..not a point to get stressed

I don’t think you are over reacting, but if I were you I would be telling myself that this is the last year I will have to deal with them and move on. Making a fuss will only hurt the kids and that’s not what you want to have happen, I’m sure. Just enjoy the night with your family and stay happy and nice.

The older I get, the more I realise, sometimes mums don’t grow out of high school clicks, they just move them to the way they are.

So hard! I think perhaps approach it by saying something like “my child’s graduation is really important to me, and I’d love to be involved. Obviously you haven’t appreciated the things I have offered to help with – is there something else you’d like me to help with?” But really, there’s not a lot you can do. Remember you probably won’t see a lot of these mums once the kids move on to high school.

I don’t think your over reacting at all

I don’t think you are overreacting – I’ve been in a similar situation. As much as it hurts, I had to walk away as got tired of offering my assistance/putting my hand up/giving ideas and then ‘not being heard’.

Unfortunately some mum groups are really clicky and leave out other mums. They never truly grew up from high school… I’m really sorry you have been put into this position