Hopefully everything went well. Sounds like the friend was a little too eager

Oh my goodness this is a very old post !! Hope it all worked out with your friend and the baby shower ? Did you get to talk things out ?

The best way would be to delegate jobs, that way each person knows exactly what they are responsible for.

ask her to take a step back, and let you two organise it, and trust you. I hate all these shitty parties to be honest, and being part of a big family of girls, it is incredibly hard to have my view point, as most like them. to me they are come over and buy me a present kinda things…. Good luck with it all, I feel for you!!!

Only way to fix it is by being honest. Your friend might not even realise how she’s being. Show her your post here

IN NICE WAY YOU HAVE TO TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL! NOT ABOUT PAST EVENTS BUT THAT YOU FEEL THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO FEEL INVOLVED MORE SO THAT YOU CAN SHARE THE PLANNING ETC TOGETHER. YOUR OWN WORDS BUT USE I FEEL SO IT IS MORE POSITIVE CONVERSATION, YOU SAY YOU ARE ALL GOOD FRIENDS SO SHE MAY NOT BE AWARE THAT SHE IS DOING MORE THAN HER SHARE AS IT IS A JOINT EFFORT TO MAKE THE SHOWER A GREAT DAY,A SUGGESTION GET BUBBLE BLOWERS AS THEY ARE MAGICAL .CELEBRATION AND BEING HAPPY IS ALL THAT IS NEEDED. ALL THE BEST

this sounds just like the plot of the movie “bridesmaids” that was hilarious

Sounds quite normal to me…good luck!

Hope it all worked out in the end?

Hope the party went off without any trouble. Would love to hear

If you look up watermelon baby shower in google images. I love the idea

It’s really really hard to work with someone else when it comes to planning a party for a 3rd person. I would call her up and say you have some spare time coming up, what can you do to help out. That way your not upsetting her and she has the opportunity to ask for your help.

Hope it all worked out and everyone including mum enjoyed themselves

there are some good comments here

how did it go in the end .. . .

i hoped it all worked out

I hope everything turned out well!

You sound like a lovely friend. Maybe if you can’t seem to get in on the baby shower planning you can take photos of the day and collect little keepsakes (Game card answer sheets etc) and make her a little album? Maybe leave a few pages to be filled in by her when the baby arrives too….

How lovely that you both care so much about your friend! Try saying that you’re feeling like you’d like to contribute more to the party, and I do think you should mention your disappointment at having your gift idea taken over. That’s very uncouth.

I was just kindly say to her you have a lot on your plate how about letting me take over for a bit or something so it doesn’t sound nasty but in fact helpful.