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Hi lovely mum’s! I’m currently trying to conceive with my husband and we always talk about what our babies would look like, names, sex, ect. Then we get to the circumcision debate. I really want the baby (if a male) to be circumcised like his dad, but my husband said he doesn’t want to because it’s unnecessary and he wish he had a choice. We are always talking about this debate and both feel strongly about our opinion did you mum’s have debates about this with you S/O ? I would like to clarify it wouldn’t be for religious reasons but for the baby to be like his dad, and for cleaning.

Please no judgement just after some opinions thank you


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  • My husband and I discussed this issue and we agreed but as it turned out we had all girls so it was a non issue anyway.
    If your husband doesnt agree then im afraid you will have to give in and go alone with your husband.


  • This is a really tough situation to be in and I don’t think I have the answer unfortunately. Both Mum and Dad need to agree on this.


  • Why do you want your son to be circumsised like his dad is, whilst your husband doesn’t want this ?
    Do you feel it honours your husband eventhough he doesn’t want it and wished he had a choice ? Why would you take away the choice for your child ? Also circumsision is not without risks


  • Can I ask why it’s important to you that your son is circumcised if your husband is? My husband is, and our 3 sons are not. My eldest two were born at 27 weeks and had already been through enough, so I made the decision to not put them through anything that was not medically necessary. It hasn’t made a difference at all that they are “different” to dad.


  • Don’t circumcise your child. It’s medically unnecessary, messes with the nerve endings and changes the mechanics of sex because there’s no longer a proper sheath. Doing it to be “just like his dad” is an extremely weak reason for mutilating a child’s penis (and is unfortunately the most common reason outside of religion).
    There are only going to be rare situations where circumcision is medically necessary, which would usually be years down the track. As long as it’s kept clean like rest of his body, it’s not an issue. This horrible tradition needs to stop.


  • I personally don’t think it’s necessary. I understand the whole looking like dad thing. But really why do it unless for medical reasons. My sons not but I will be teaching him how to be hygienic and clean his bits properly. If you teach them that then will be no problems. why cause Trauma unessesary x


  • I feel it is more odd for a little boy to look different to his father. When my son was born my brother was 5 and he had a friend who had to get circumcised at 5 due to continual uti. At the same time we had a family friend who had to get it done at 37, which at that age it is quite a procedure with a few weeks for recovery. Coming from a 3rd world country it is heavily encouraged due to STD transmission being higher in the uncircumcised. But it is a decision that the 2 of you have to agree on. Whatever you choose is the best that you can do for your child.


  • My foster son came home from school one day after swimming sports and asked us why he looked different to all the other boys ‘down there’. Try expaining to a 8 year old that, as a baby, his birth mother had him circumcised, then trying to explain what that meant using google diagrams etc. Even to a 8 year old, the explanaton of why you would cut a baby’s foreskin sounds illogical and he hated that he didn’t look like the other boys in his class. One more thing that made him different.


  • Hubby and I definitely had this discussion. I was more worried about the pain side of things so was against. Whereas hubby was very adamant that he wanted it done so they look the same. We ended up doing it and honestly it was completely fine


  • Unfortunately ifs both parents decision so both need to agree to that.


  • Both of my boys are uncircumcised and have this far had no issues thank fully. I think you should further consider your husband’s opinion.


  • I feel like this is your husbands choice – men shouldn’t make decisions about women’s bodies so women shouldn’t make decisions about men’s bodies


  • Leave him intact. You wouldn’t even consider this if you had a daughter, even if you had been circumcised I’ve never even thought about my daughters’ genitals looking or not looking like mine. It sounds as if it is only important to you that his genitals look like his Dad’s. In regards to cleaning. There are so many skin folds on babies regardless of gender. Cleaning is important regardless of gender and anatomy, but it’s completely unnecessary to remove the ‘extra’ skin to clean a penis.


  • I’d just go with your husband


  • To add what’s your reason for wanting him circumcised? Why is what your husband is saying not convincing you?


  • Honestly I would trust what my husband thinks and would probably go with what he says. I’m not a male so I don’t know what they go through. He would know better than me.


  • I let my husband make the decision on circumcision for our son mainly cause I didn’t mind either way. He wanted it done cause of family health history so we did got it done.


  • Personally as a female I think I should leave up to my husband.
    My husband isn’t and nether is my son


  • My partner is circumcised but it was never up for discussion when our son was born. My partner wasn’t fazed either way and no way would I have it done. It’s so unnecessary and causes bub so much pain, why do it?


  • Think you really need to listen to your husband. It’s such an outdated concept and your poor child will have an unnecessary procedure done for “looks”


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