Hello!

I returned from maternity leave to a position I had been in for approx. 7 years about 12 months ago. Whilst I was on maternity leave the business underwent restructuring and hired new staff. Since coming back, there has been cliques that were not there previously. I just don’t know where I fit anymore. The new staff are much younger than me, and I feel so lonely whilst at work. How do you navigate this? It has gotten to the point where I am seeking other employment but in my current field this is hard to come by. I have spoken to management about the position I am in, but not much has changed. My priorities have changed and I don’t need them to like me, but I just don’t want to feel so “isolated” anymore.


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  • Not sure if this workplace is the best one for you. You shouldn’t feel like this at work


  • Sounds like you need a change. Going to work shouldn’t be uncomfortable and if they’re making you uncomfortable you should speak up!


  • Oh sounds horrible. All I can suggest is more time ????‍♀️ And keep looking for a new job just in case things don’t improve in your current job


  • No advice as such but I had the same issue. Sending you hugs.
    Just give it some time. Everything changes when your a mumma x


  • I think it will just take time. Be friendly and ask after their families etc. and it will gradually evolve.


  • I am in a field that shifts and changes all of the time. I find common ground with people and then they happily talk about themselves and other topics. I do have a positive nature and say “hello” with a smile to everyone at work. People return the greeting and smile and engage in conversation. Coffee catch ups and shared meals can help with being included. I like a mix of time to myself and some inclusion. Good luck!


  • I think it would be good to give it time, in a way you came back into a new team


  • I found this happened for me at work also and it took about 2 years for things to change but I am glad I hung in there as it is fine now. Good luck, hope it all works out for you.


  • I would keep pushing through. They might not mean to come across as cliquey! It might just take time to develop a relationship with them.


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