At age 12 they hit the teenage years and interest in siblings can become less important than their interest in friends. You could have a chat with your daughter and explain that her behaviour is hurtful to her brother and that he loves her

It’s just a sibling thing. Don’t stress too much about it. The more you try to force it, the more the older one will dig her heels in and refuse. I’m sure she loves him and that will be one apparent as she grows and matures

My older two often find my youngest very annoying because they are older and just want to relax. They do sometimes get along, my oldest can be quite patient at times and help her with things, but it gets old quickly. It has gotten better as she matures.

I’m not sure that you can do much. Children go through different phases depending on their ages.

Good reading the comments there really interesting!

My kids are 3 years apart and I never got them to get along. They’re 22 and 25 this year and just starting to enjoy each other’s company without world war 3 breaking out

You need to understand she is at that age where she is hitting puberty there is only so much you can do, try and explains to here she only gets one brother and he is it,

She is basically a teenager, so it is expected to a certain extent. I would sit her down and talk to her about it alone. Also do you have special time for just the 2 of you? There may be jealousy that you are always more concerned with the 5 yr old try having a mum and daughter day (dont call it that she will hate it) but go get pedicures or nails done go to the movies and lunch or just on a girly shopping trip whatever works for you but do it with just you and your daughter no one else

That is sad and i hope it changes soon

I don’t think you can get your kids to enjoy each other

Unfortunately there is not much you can do about it but I’m sure it will get better as they both get older. She probably feels it to be ‘uncool’ to have a clingy little brother in front of her friends.

I don’t have this problem and I have a 19 year old and a 8 year old they both get along perfect as they are both interested in gaming so they they have that in common. They get to spend time together which is great.

sadly you cant, it is a shame that he loves her sho much and she cant see this

oh thats sad maybe tell her it makes him really happy when shes tells him bye and then he loves her so much

Sounds like my kids. my son who is 7 loves affection and my daughter who is 3 hates it when he wants kisses. But then he ignores her when she wants to chat.

things change when you get older i wouldn’t worry

Maybe she’s embarrassed to show affection? but try and explain how hurtful she is being. 12 is old enough to understand. It’s not nice behaviour and it’s definitely not nice to treat her baby brother like this.

Find out why she is doing it by sitting down with her and asking question and having a genuine conversation with her. Let her know that she is not in trouble and you miss being about to talk to her about stuff and how much her brother looks up to her and how her behaviour will rub off onto him and he might end up rejecting affection. Good luck!

Try an establish some loving activities at home that will help them to connect more. Give her the responsibility of reading his nighttime story and tucking him in to bed, or helping him with some reading and writing activities.

Poor kid! it must be tough for them both but I think this is what siblings are all about, perhaps just have a little chat with your daughter and ask her to be polite, tell her how much her brother loves her and what a good thing it would be, good luck! the next 8 years will me fun!