You can’t force friendships. Just be yourself and continue yo be nice, maybe she opens up at the idea after a while.

Why would you bother? It seems she’s not interested in being friends, I think you’re fighting a list cause

Its a difficult situation to be in,seems she doesnt want to be friends!

Just keep doing what you’re doing, keep being you, show you mean what you said. Give it time and she might come round. Some women are totally unforgiving when it comes to their ex and new partner

I would suggest she’s made her position clear that you can’t be friends, she doesn’t want to be friends and that’s that.

It is great reading the comments!

I don’t think she can be your friends, only keep good relationship would be ok.

i think you’ll just have to see what happens over time but keep being friendly anyway

I don’t think you will be able to be friends, but civil will be good

Try not to force it. Continue being friendly to her, because, as you said, she is going to be in your life for a very long time. It will also be good for husband’s child to see that you do not hate their mother. She may come around, she may not, but at least you know you tried.

Don’t push the issue. Just be polite to her, say hi and smile. One day you might have a conversation when she’s ready.

It sounds like she still has feelings for him. I am separated from my eldest sons father and we are all friends, he even looks after my youngest child too, so we can go away at weekends. They even go fishing all together without me lol. That is why I still think she has feelings for him. It works out so much better for the children this way, they are not put under any pressure. I would talk to her explain this and ask if she still does.

i tried to be friend with my partners ex but was not worth it so maybenjsut let it be

I never want to be friends with my partners ex and my ex husbands wife I talk to her but we are not friends you can be civil and thats it

I wouldn’t change it. It may be hard on her seeing her x has moved on

It is not a bad thing the way things are now, so really might be worth leaving it the way it is.

it may be to hard for her yet,to see you as a family,does she have another partner?
i would leave things for now,just make sure any decisions you need to make about the kids etc you include her in.
sometimes this is the way things have to be.maybe in more time

I would just leave things as they are.

I have a friend in this sort of situation and I honestly thing you should leave it alone. As long as you are mature and nice to each other you don’t need to be besties

I think you have done all that you can do for the moment. I wouldn’t force things. You sound like a nice person, so I would continue just to be pleasant and hopefully in time you will become equally as close with his family if that is your desire.