Last night we went to a party and I was feeding my baby who is 10 months old some solids. She took him from me and started feeding him from the same fork she put in her mouth.

I don’t know where her mouth has been or what she has and I don’t feel comfortable with her sharing with my baby but I don’t know how to tell her. I’m sure she will get offended as she’s very sensitive and will say it doesn’t matter as her and my hubby are brother and sister and that it’s okay…

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  • I’d get your husband to talk to her about boundaries.

  • She needs to follow your boundaries, be firm it’s your baby not hers. Don’t worry about her feelings as she is hurting yours in the process. It’s not just about how she feels x

  • I would just explain in a gentle way “hey, I saw you feeding my baby with the fork you used yourself and don’t feel comfortable with that”. When she waves away your concern ” I would like you to respect our boundaries”

  • Some people just love to cross boundaries. I would just straight out say no. Stay string and advocate for yourself and baby.

  • Maybe use soft plastic baby spoons and tell her you don’t want the metal fork in his mouth just yet? Then she has to use the baby cutlery?

  • I don’t think I’d be comfortable with this, so I think you should just politely try and tell her that you don’t like her feeding your child like that.

  • It’s not ok and you are the mum. My big life lessson when having kids… im the mum and it’s my job to tell people if I don’t like something they are doing to my child.
    You are right.. who knows what germs she could have.
    If she gets offended tell her tough t@ts.
    She needs to stop being so sensitive and respect others wishes.

  • Tell her out right what you want. Also remind her that some babies get bad reflux and will vomit all over you if fed things at the wrong time, or the wrong things in the wrong way. No one really knows what sets them off I do’nt think. You don’t want yours getting it! Oh and what is that stain on her shoulder? Hope it washes out.

  • With things like this, i don’t think there is any easy way to say it, but to just come out of it… just come out and tell her that you feel uncomfortable with the situation… you both mean no harm…

  • Family should be close enough to be honest with. Just tell her nicely that you don’t feel comfortable with it

  • I think just be honest and upfront about how you feel.

  • I’d hint at it. I’d tell someone who isn’t sensitive like her, to the same thing and tell them to stop, and hopefully she’d put two and two together. If that doesn’t work, I’d just rip off the bandaid and just tell her respectfully to stop.

  • I think you’ll be better off just telling her how your feeling explaining you don’t want her sharing utensils with your baby because of germs.

  • I’d never feed a child of 10 months with a fork for one and secondly it’s not hygienic for someone to feed another using the same utensil. I’m sorry if she’s a sensitive person but she needs to realise that this is your baby and not hers so she needs to follow your rules. Get your husband to help explain since this is his sister

  • Your baby, you lay down the rules. I’d be shocked if this happened to me, and I would have no choice but to tell the friend, that feeding bub, with clean cutlery and not used by anyone else only.

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