You might find some suggestions in this article
https://collaborativedivorcetexas.com/dealing-passive-aggressive-spouse/

Never react with anger because the blame game starts. Have your say calmly and walk away. It is his problem and let him know that he needs to fix it.

Firstly, don’t give them a reaction. When responding be logical and factual and don’t engage in an argument.

Some tips to deal with it are;
Do not react to his behavior. They are looking for a reaction from you in order to confirm their behavior has had its intended impact. …
Do not blame or judge. …
Engage positively and assertively. …
Be specific — and invoke empathy. …
Remove yourself.

I’m unsure exactly what this entails, even though I know I am this too. Any type of disagreement is difficult to deal with