A few years back a friend of mine asked if she could use my washing machine to do a load of washing becasue her machine had died. I had no issue with this and she loaded up the machine, used my laundry detergent and set the machine going. She then said she would be back later and she left. The washing was done and as it was a rainy day i popped it in the dryer and when it was done I neatly folded it for her. This became a habit and she was doing 2 and sometimes 3 loads a week. I over heard her talking to a friend one day and she said that she loved washing her laundry at my place and made sure she didnt return too quickly so that i would have time to fold her washing for her. This bugged me a ;little. It was when I got my power bill that I noticed how much more expensive it was then normal so I mentioned it to her and said that if this was going to continue I would appreciate her helping out with a small payment of $5 a load. That was the last time she used my washing machine and she started doing her washing at another friends place instead.

I hope by now you’ve set some clear boundaries !

This has to be a joke. Nobody does that. Bring the washing – or do it for them during a party!

That is ridiculous that anyone would bring their washing to your house and expect you to wash it. Family or not, I’d be telling them to bugger off. If their machine was broken or they didn’t have one, and had asked first then I’d probably be all for it, but to just turn up and expect it, Nope!!

Oh my word. get some new friends! no it is not ok! If they drop off stuff for you to do, give them something to do in return. Like, oh ill do your laundry if you do my dishes, or make the beds or something. Or drop them stuff when you visit them and see how they like it! the nerve of some people

No way !! Just say “thanks but no thank you’ !

I wouldn’t! I don’t get anyone else to do my own laundry (have been doing it since I was 14) so definitely wouldn’t do anyone else’s (other than my faughters and husband’s in with my own washing).
Pretty rude of them to not just ask you to do it but to ask you to do it during a party and saying they’re doing you a favour!

What in the world! No ma’am, no way! We are a house of 7 with 5 kids and I work part time, I used to be a SAHM and I honestly couldn’t go back – it’s HARD work being a stay at home mum. NO it’s not ok getting you to do their washing, who are these people to you? I don’t think it even matters who they are, that is still super disrespectful. Your life is no less important than theirs. Please just say no, i’m busy. If they keep trying, just don’t get it done.

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Housework 27
May be you n hubby should say something to your daughter
But in a nice way like
Its time you really thought about your life n boyfriend
You cant keep coming home when you feel like it
Just to have me wash your clothes
Maybe its time you packed your bags
Your an adult now

Why should you have to wash their clothes when they don’t live with you. First off they’d need to supply washing detergent and softener, then they’d have to pay so much per load and if they wanted it folded and ironed then that would cost more. Put your foot down and soon enough they’ll decide it’s either cheaper to do it themselves or take it to the drycleaners. I must admit my family would never expect this of me. Good luck

I am very curious as to who this family member is to you? I cannot fathom anyone expecting the same from me particularly in the manner they have “asked”. I would decline purely based on how they expected and thought it was ok, and subsequent rude comments, and I generally love helping people

I absolutely wouldn’t go this far, as the prize would be your own family and yourself

Two answers to that … Firstly; Say that you are too busy -You have 8 kids !!!
Second, Gently (?) tell them “This is insane behaviour (to ask me to wash your clothes) , go away and be mad elsewhere”.
Continuing to meet their rude expectations is not doing your own family (kids and partner) any good. You are not being selfish/ lazy/etc, but instead loving by not giving in to their requests; you are being a loving person helping them to grow into mature, kind individuals – which they obviously aren’t and equally obviously need a loving person to help them achieve. Good Luck !

Absolutely not. They are totally taking advantage of you and they are so rude! How dare they suggest you have nothing else to do as a stay at home mum. Every mother knows there is always a million things to do. I would definately put a stop to this.

First off, by you doing their laundry, you have unwittingly set the tone for what they expect. If you don’t want to do their laundry and after telling them you aren’t doing it, they still drop their laundry off, try this. Put 2 loads of washing in the machine put the washing powder on top and when it comes out with the powder all over the clothes just hang the clothes on the line and give it back to them. They will not ask you or expect you to do it again. My husband did that over 30 years ago as he thought he was economising by adding 2 loads instead of 1. He has never been allowed near the washer since. What does your husband say about all of this? If your relatives still continue bring their laundry around. Don’t wash theirs and take yours to their place. If you enjoy doing their laundry because you think you are “only a stay at home mum” by all means continue to do it. But by thinking you are JUST a “STAY at HOME MUM” you are seriously undermining your own potential.

OMG! At first I thought this was a joke. How rude and disrespectful these people are. I’m absolutely shocked. You wash for 10 PEOPLE already. But, why are these people so entitled to suggest, or think, or want you to do their laundry? NO WAY!

Whaaat?! Are they serious! I can’t even imagine the work you must have with 8 kids, and that they would have the hide to expect that of you! This is next level rude! You aren’t their servant! Next time they ask put a price tag on it for your labour- there are people out there that take on washing for extra money so why should they expect it for free?

I would be charging them for doing their laundry. Tell them a stay at home mum needs the extra money so she and her husband can go out while they baby sit your children. Bet it stops really quickly.

I have to agree with all the other comments. Also it doesn’t matter if you have nothing else to do in your day, which of course you would with eight kids, that’s none of their business. Let them leave their laundry and when they go put it out the front as is. Such rude people, it’s unbelievable!

I would never do that to someone-without talk before and definitely not while you are having party. So rude….if u don’t have a time to do your own laundry hire cleaner or take it to laundromat.