This is so sad. I hear you say “I love him” but seriously how can you love someone that would treat you and speak to you that way? You need to love yourself first and see that YOU deserve better.

How is it going now ? One thing I do know that we’re going through stages in our marriage/relationship.

Counselling. It’s hard for both of you and you need to get an understanding of how both of you are feeling. It sounds as though you are not communicating. The trouble could be getting him to counselling of course

You really do need to sort things out NOW before your medical problems get any worse. If he is not going to be a helpful partner through your problems then he may as well not be around you and you will have to cut your losses before worse things happen. Do hope there isn’t a money basis here too.

I feel for you but have you asked your hubby how he feels about the change that’s happened in your lives due to your medical conditions and have you told him how you feel? If you don’t come clean with one another and clear the air, nothing will change for the better. All the best.

Be honest with him about how your feeling. I think that that’s the only way, you may get an answer you don’t like but at least you would know… maybe suggest seeing a councillor together to worth through what is bothering him and so you can reconnect?

It might be helpful for you to get some marriage counseling, would he be open to that? You’ve both been through a lot of changes and it’s ok to need some help

Oh I can fully empathise with you on this one. I have adored my partner since I first laid eyes on him. Yet I’ve always felt he’s never 100% reciprocated. He spends most of his spare time pretending i dont exist or criticising all that i do. Im now so broken

If you have a way out, take it now. If you don’t start making a plan to do so. Whilst its not easy to be a carer for someone by any means, its not a job that should be done without love. I wouldn’t trust him to care for you adequately if this is the attitude he’s presenting now, protect yourself and get out as soon as you can. Speak to your healthcare providers and see how you can get the ball rolling. I’m so sorry this is happening to you and wish you all the best.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. I’d suggest talking to a counsellor and getting yourself to a stronger place first. Then sitting down with your partner and talking to him. Most men don’t get subtly. I’ve had to either blow up or sit my husband down to get him to properly listen to my needs or concerns before. It’s not easy, but sometimes it has to be done so you know where you stand. Once you know for sure, then you can take things from there.

Sorry to hear you feel this way and I hope you you can get the help you need for your health and mental health. Would he be open to counseling

Do whatever makes you happy. You shouldnt be with someone just to be with someone if they are not fulfilling your needs as a human being.

I would suggest talking to a counsellor about this.

Its a time to talk to him.

With your physical and mental health issues you sure have a lot on your plate and I can imagine this impacts your confidence and relationships. I agree with the others it would be good to seek first of all counseling for yourself and see if you can motivate and involve your partner in this as well.

I honestly think you may need to go and get some counselling. There may be some issues going on his in brain as well, that the counselling may help with. Sending positive vibes your way.

Like others have said, I would suggest that you both get some counselling. If he won’t go, then go by yourself, at least to start. Having someone being able to view your relationship objectively helps you both to be able to do that too. This helps enormously with communication. Best of luck with all of this,

I would ask him directly how he feels. Maybe he doesn’t realize how much his behaviour affects you.

You need to talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel and give him the opportunity to express his feelings, needs and expectations without judgement. Try not to get upset if you don’t like what you hear because he will clam up if you do. You need to be prepared that if you offer him a way out and you are right about his diminished feelings for you, then he might just take it. You have to be sure that if he does chose to leave, that you are going to be able to cope with it. All that said, I truly hope he still loves you and is in it for the long haul. Sometimes guys just don’t register how hurtful their words and actions can be, sometimes you need to point it out very clearly before they get it.

I think you need to be really clear and honest with him about how you’re feeling. Men just don’t get it otherwise.